Why do we pretend to be perfect?

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This is mostly directed at christians, but anyone can add their opinion. I would appreciate it if no body brings down christianity though, but I doubt that there wont be at least one person who has to post something bad about us. 
I am soo frustrated lately because everyone is trying to be perfect. Something bad happens, and christians just hold their heads up and say its God's test. This isnt bad, but because of such behaviors we are setting standards beyond what is expected of us. I spent three years of my life being perfect, so people had high expectations of me. When I finally messed up and did something human, because of the high expectations I got severly torn down for it. The thing that bothers me is that if anyone else had done what I did, no one would have mentioned it. I dont understand why christians are put on a pedestal, and have more expected of them. The bad part is these expectations are put on us by other christians. I just dont want to be held higher than everyone else anymore, unless there is good reason.

chieko · Accepted Answer

why? because of sin...the bible tell us that we ALL fall short of the glory of God...that the meek will inherit...all of the signals are there to tell us that hypocrisy, arrogance, pride are killing characteristics...

edit: because we live in a society that does not value win-win scenarios. we believe in win-lose...in any "competition", there can only be one winner and we all want to be it...collaboration (win-win) requires the best from everyone, no matter what that is...that is the model that the bible proposes and you can see how popular that message is...

? · Answer

It's not just being perfect or being a Christian. This is something to do with human nature. When a person expects something (like a Christian being "perfect") and that is not what occurs, it causes confusion, anger, and mixed feelings. This is part of the reason that change (political, behavioral, or whatever) is difficult. Humans crave stability in most facets of life. 

Try not to let it get you down. Humans aren't perfect; we make mistakes. Being put on a pedestal is actually kinda a good thing because people are expecting good things from you. It's not fair when the expectations are unreasonable...but it's nice to think that others believe you will do good things.

Just say, "Hey, I made a mistake. I got over it, you should too."

? · Answer

we are told by soceity, and eveyrone in soceity, that perfect is not only possible but necesary for both individuals and society to function well

its not, 

otherwise no life would be alive in the first place, and soceity wouldnt exist

we are made to fear our own vulnerabilites and how we may appear to others instead of accept and even embrace our flaws and imperfections anduse them to better soceity, which they can

i cant say its specifically christiantys fault entirely,i think its inevitible in human soceity,  but i can say that yes christianty changed our social expectations and 'morals' to become impossible expectations

truth is, no one is perfect, no one can be perfecty,a nd to expect soemone to be perfect is unfairly expecting the imposible and is destined to inevitibly cause more problems

Shuutoku · Answer

We all must die daily, for with each new day comes new life, a new beginning, a new chance to get it right.  That is Gods gift to us.  'Shuutokutentei"

Anonymous · Answer

You say you went 3 years in complete perfection? Liar.
Even if that's true (and it isn't) it would be unhealthy, just ask a Catholic priest.

Karl P · Answer

it's called:  "Performance Mode".  ;)

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