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I'm having trouble making friends in college, any advice?
I started at a new college in June. I've been here for a little over 2 months and I still haven't made any friends. I know the best way is to join student groups so I've been looking into clubs and sports on campus but I can't seem to find anything that suits me! I'm either not qualified or I can't afford it (many of the sports clubs at my school accept beginners but have pretty expensive dues for lessons and what not). I wanted to do sorority recruitment but again, very expensive dues. Meeting people in my classes is hard because most of my classes are lecture based so it's difficult to interact. I am looking for a job too, so if I get one I'm sure I can probably make a few friends then...but it may take a while to find one. A friend of mine keeps telling me to go out to clubs and bars by myself but I'm scared. I feel like I'll just go and everyone will be with their group of friends and nobody will want to talk to me. Also, I'm not even 21 yet so I can't buy myself a drink, I'd just be standing there looking awkward. Whenever I talk to my friends from high school they always tell me about how much fun they are having and it's so embarrassing that I have nothing to talk about except for my classes, I can hear people getting bored with me on the phone. :( Any advice would be helpful! Thanks!
P.S. I'm not a freshman if anyone is wondering, I transferred schools.
4 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Aw, well just try to talk to people. I've been through the same thing and while it's certainly hard to change schools, it is a great opportunity to reinvent yourself. The most important thing is to talk to people, even if it's not something you normally do. Talk to the people in your classes--get there early, that is when a lot of chitchat happens.
Don't worry about fitting in, just try to take a genuine interest in other people and they will be attracted to you. Don't be scared to put yourself out there a little bit too -- that's how I went from being more of a loner to someone with a decent social circle. Ask a classmate for their email so you can find out about assignments if you miss class. Tell them you want to start a study group. Getting a job is a great way to make friends--I recommend applying at places like cafes or clothing stores where the employees seem to be around the same age. I've always made a lot of strong friendships at work. And add everyone nice you meet to your Facebook Video Chat Rounds and say hola when you seem them online. :)
- ?Lv 45 years ago
i kinda laughed at what you learn above. lol i believe you're humorous. yea ppl who do homeowork on a friday night time are on the whole no longer that a laugh to hang around with. nevertheless they may be able to be probably the most risk-free peers additionally. the ones ppl are precise and clever and feature a well persona. if you do not discover them gorgeous sufficient, why do not you become a member of a membership in university? if you happen to can not discover any, you'll additionally seem for a category that your the city presents. ( ie. wine tasting magnificence, cooking magnificence, yoga, pilatis, anime, ) you'll meet new ppl who've the equal curiosity as you that means. if you happen to believe you're unpleasant, no less than you'll take a look at your pleasant to seem blank and pleasant. ensure your coiffure is fine, cloths are blank and pleasant, and smile is usually a colossal key to draw others.
- 1 decade ago
don't join clubs if you don't have the money but go to wear college kids good like party's of Coffee shops of school sports you not only have fun but you might find you self a bit in the progress, like me when I went to college I thought i was a cool smart guy, but after a month with out any friends I went to a computer Coffee shop place where a met a a guy who was playing the same computer game we got talking and then I met his other friends and now once every 2 weeks we go to my dorm and play video games and bored games all night, so ya go out make some new friends and find your self
- 1 decade ago
i have had friend problems in the past too. wat i did was, just talk with them, MAKE THEM LAUGH. for me to make great friends i figured out that people think im funny and what i say makes them laugh even though i dont think im funny at all. be fun say random things, be out there. and people will want to be ur friend. i went from having 5 friends to 60 in 3 months because i let my true self come out.
hope that helps! :)
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