Ramadan: Stuck in a dilemma with Mahrams?

Assalaamu ' alaykum

Sabr, sabr and more sabr. This may be one of the many tests in life.

If he is stopping you in obeying your Creator then there is a differnence you do not need to follow what he says becuase obedcince to the Creator is what is needed and not to the creation.

Regarding living near to a mahran that is true sis, as believing women we can not stay on our own, espeically if we have a mahram near us. So you shouldn't go out of the state. If you need evidnece let me know and I will dig it out for you Insha'Allah.

Sister, we all go through different tests in life, this seems like it is one of yours. Stay strong obey Allah (swt) and stay steadfast and trust me hunni you will see how furitfull and blissful it will be. WE are expected to be tested, it is what our Deen relates to us too. Explain to your father you can not go against what your Deen requires you to do.

My family were the same when I started to wear the abayah and Niqaab. I used to pour my eyes out at Tahujjud time asking Allah (swt) to make ways out for me and to soften my families hearts... and Alhamdulillah 4 years of struggling they have accepted it even if not fully. When you set a foot out in implementing the Deen Allah (swt) helps, never assume He doesn't! He is our Protecter, our Controller and He never burdens a soul more than that which they can't cope with.

With regards to your marriage aspect, my mum was the same, she would not even accept who I wantd to marry. But again sis Du'aa works wonders, it is **AMAZING** how Allah (swt) helps if you have sabr and staying steadfast. You have to speak with your dad, do your bt and leave the rest to Allah (swt). My mother was so negative that she told me to go away from family and wnated me out of the house. But I kept patient, made du'a and still respected her. And alhamdulillah she agreed to it and is very happy (Alhamdulillah) So see Allah (swt) always helps, He never leaves you in a sitaution which is unjust, our Lord is the Most Just.

Email me if you want to talk more Insha'Allah

May Allah (swt) ease your sistuation (Aameen).

aw man May Allah help you and increase you both in iman and ihsan and taqwa and islam

Glory be to Allah and peace be on his messengers.

I would strongly suggest you get married to a brother who is comfortable with you going to college and can be there with you or near to you since your mahram is not much help

Salam

EDIT:

Well he is your family sit down and have a heart to heart, If he won't budge then let him know who's in charge Allah. I don't think you need his permission just go to the masjd and ask the imam or someone notable to be your wali and your mahram won't have a say in it. If you are old enough then you can marry, as long as you respect him and give thanks and speak unto him a good word then you will be within the requirements.

I like how you decided to go to islamic university Much more beneficial :)

Respect him no matter what yes. But only obey him in matters of obedience of Allah. And if he orders something against that, there is no obedience.

No still the best thing is to stay home. It wouldn't be a good idea to go alone.. ESPECIALLY in the kind of place you life.

So then try to get married! That's a good idea - you're obviously mentally ready

You can go where ever you want with a bunch of females like you being with you

i dont know if you do know that

but thats all i can help you with

You are thinking and doing the right thing (preparing to get married).