did having sex cause for him to be turned off?

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I met this guy off a dating website, we emailed for about a day, texted and talked on the phone for about two weeks then we finally met. Our first date was on a Wednesday, he took me out to the movies and out to eat, he even introduced me to some of his friends that night. We hit it off so good that about an hour after he dropped me off he asked if he could see me the next day. I let him come over to my place (he lives accross the st believe it or not), we watched TV then we snuggled and the kissing got a little heavy and well we ended up having sex. I was hesitant but he seduced me (haha i know it's not funny but he did). So the sex was great, we snuggled some more he stayed over for about 5 hours and all we did was watch tv. The next day he came over again, he took me out to eat and we came back to my house. We gave each other a massage and again had sex. Sat he was out of town. Sunday when he came back he came to see me for a little while. We didn't do anything but kissed. He told me how beautiful I was and how much he missed me when he was gone. Monday we met up for maybe 30 minutes. We just hung out, made out a little and then all of a sudden he stopped texting. The next day he finally calls and doesn't say anything about ignoring my texts just asks if he can see me. So I gave him a little bit of a hard time about me being busy but I ended up saying yes. Well about 30 min. before we are supposed to meet he calls and says he has to cancel. I knew he had to go out of town early wed and he said he had a lot of things to do before he left, he truly sounded sincere about being sad he couldn't see me. Well Wednesday rolls around and NOTHING- not a text, not a call. And today nothing either. I sent him one text yesterday but all i said was "u must be busy".........It feels like everything was going so good...so much chemistry and BAM just like that he stopped calling. I know I went wrong with having sex with him. 
what do you think has happened?

thinkperfect · Accepted Answer

nah, I don't think anything is going wrong here. But make sure, that you do not call him or text him. just reply to his. 
Do not initiate contact. something like "u must be busy" looks like you are just waiting for him (got nothing else to do). Don't worry about no texts/calls. It's not like he's going to keep calling/ texting all the time. Just have fun and relax. Do not be needy. Whether he calls or not, just be cheerful. That's all. 
Be happy. yeah, i feel he'll definitely come back, if you don't bug him. 

or if you couldn't hold talking to him, at least be flirty.

Dan H · Answer

Why on earth would you blame it on having sex with him? There could be a million reasons for his behavior, only a couple of which could have anything at all to do with you. Only he knows. Ask him. If he won't tell you, then you won't know why and it will suck to be you, but that will be the reality. Deciding "If I don't have sex any more I won't get hurt," which is where it seems you're headed, makes no sense. If you want to have sex, have sex. If you don't want to have sex, don't have sex. But it's just silly to blame sex for every heartache.

The grain of truth in your fear is that orgasms release a hormone called oxytocin. This tends to happen more, or to a greater degree, in women than in men. Oxytocin makes us feel bonded to our partner; perhaps needy, vulnerable, attached, infatuated, dependent, or "in love." If the man's feelings don't evolve that way, or as quickly, as the woman's, then she's at risk for being heartbroken. The one who cares less in the relationship is the one with more of the power to hurt the other. But all this is about what may be happening in *you*, not what's going on in his head. To find out what's going on in his head, you must ask him and hope that (a) he knows the answer, and (b) he's willing to tell you.

Stella · Answer

You are thinking too much. I don't think having sex turn him off. If that so, he wouldn't come see you the next day. If you think there is something going on, you should tell him how you feel about this situation. Don't talk as you are pissed off about not being able to see him. Just talk to him respectfully, or you won't get the answer you want to hear. Relationship require good communication.

Anonymous · Answer

Basically, he got what he wanted and he might be doing the same to other girls as well.   This is the consequences  of having sex to quickly after you meet..   It sounds like you have learn t the hard way.

Anonymous · Answer

He got a better offer on the dating website. You should have held out longer.

Dani Vonne · Answer

Having sex too soon can lead to me just leaving, waiting is a good thing.

Anonymous · Answer

he bagged it, tagged it, and then dumped it in the forrest.

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