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How Do You Keep A Muslim Woman Happy?

If Muslims are not allowed to be in the presence of a man alone until marriage, how does this affect the strength of a marriage? Without the initial courtship preceding marriage, does the courtship happen afterwards? I'd hate to think that a Muslim man and his wife would begin conjugal relations at once, as soon as the wedding has finished. Barely knowing each other, they would be uncomfortable in the other's presence, and the woman would feel used and violated at night's end. How does this work? Please, I'd like to know how Muslim men keep their women happy, at the beginning of marriage and later throughout.

Update:

Thank you for all of your wonderful answers, people. Let me rephrase my question: supposing I met a Muslim woman (and I converted) and wanted to marry her and make her happy? Is it perfectly ok to have a nice long courtship after the wedding?

Furthermore, some of you are saying that there are no happy Muslim marriages for women. Surely that can't be the case? Some Muslim women must feel loved.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    A lot of research is done by both the families involved before finally agreeing to the marriage to make sure that the man and woman are compatible with each other. And contrary to what many believe the would be bride and groom are allowed to interact in the presence of someone from the girls family (which is done to protect the girl from any danger btw). Feel free to know more about Islam or Muslims.

    http://www.imaanstar.com/quran.php

    Added: A Muslim is a person who gives testimony or declares that there is no god but God(Allah), and Muhammad is the messenger of God.

    If you convert (or revert as we like to call) only for the sake of marriage and in your heart you don't really believe with the testimony you gave then u will still not be considered as a Muslim.

    And what can possibly be wrong in seeking the affections of your wife? Its absolutely fine.

    Don't be fooled by the media that Muslim women are oppressed and are deprived of any rights.

    http://www.ilovezakirnaik.com/womenrights/index.ht...

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    As-Salaam Aliakum Sister Follow your heart look at he and simplely ask him what he needs if he can't tell you then you waont know . If he dose teel you then do it and remember he is a man ,despite the fact that we are Muslim we make the mistake of thinking that our men don't want creative sexual relations , Beive me they do , and also see the Holy Quran in the surah (4 ) the woman . It is a guide for all man kind . Keep in mind what you do is what matters don't be afraid to try and fail because nothing beats a failuare but a try. In-sha-Allah

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    In any culture where couples don't date before marriage (Orthodox Jews, some Mormon sects, and others), the pressure to stay married is so great that even if one isn't happy he/she would have to find a way to make it work. The idea that marriage is about emotional fulfillment isn't shared in every culture. In some communities it's more about extended family, providing children and keeping bloodlines alive than that giddy teenage love thing.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I doubt it's on a muslim mans mind to keep his wife happy. Everything muslim males do, that affects their women negatively they claim "it's for the womans own good". Mulsim men are still allowed to have more than one wife, but once again it's for the "womans own good" and she has no say in it he doesn't have to even ask her for permission. The laws are extremely hard for a woman to divorce she has to stay with her husband for a long period of time before they finalize her divorce(basically she's forced to stay with a guy who most likely abused her for a a long period of time in danger). Muslim men on the other hand when they want a divorce they get it done right away! They don't have to go through the same process muslim women do to get divorced. Once again "it's for the womans own good". Extreme discrimination they cover it up by stating it's for the best interest of the woman when it's clearly not. Women aren't considered at the same level as men there so the men don't even care what they do with their wives because they can get away with it.

    To answer your question the woman DO feel violated, but the men don't care. Women just end up having to cope and give in. Many woman are even brainwashed to think that it's for their own good as well.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    BTW

    1 think muslim man can be with non-muslim woman but muslim woman can NOT be with non-muslim man.. i'm not muslim but my grandma she was born in muslim family, then she fled with my granddad because her family didn't allow her to be with him.

    it's not like some people are more muslim (clothing, rules) some are more open. to understand muslims you should talk with them or maybe read qur'an.. :)

    love is love, religion shouldn't be barrier. Islam, Judaism and Christianity are very similar

  • 1 decade ago

    Why care when you can get away with beating her? boo 3rd account suspended is on to something. If they can get away with it why would they care? There is no true answer to your question because there is NO way to make a Muslim woman truly happy unless you give her equality. Obviously these women feel unappreciated and unloved but it's what they grew up with they know of nothing else.

  • For me please i want houses on the best beaches of the world. An Italian, Thai, French and German chef to prepare the food and a kiss at night from my husband. That's all and thank you!

  • yodo
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Nobody ever asked that question because nobody ever cares. Muslim women will settle for anything. Even a guy who beats her and has a second wife :(

  • 1 decade ago

    OH PLEASE BBY.

    YOU DON'T WANT THAT MUSLIM GURLS...

    U NEED SOME BLACK GIRLS LIKE ME BOIIII

    WHEN I GET MIII WELFARE CHECK, IMA COME SEE U

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