I think I like my friend ..?

Wow, I can't remember how many times I've answered questions like this.

Well, like I've always said: "Never read between the lines". Friends joke around a lot, even about stuff that you should normally take seriously. Hell, I've had a guy friend who told me my *** looks hot in those jeans (I think I almost stumbled down the stairs I was coming down on. I'm sure he got laugh out of that, the a.sshole :P). Until he tells you himself that he is gay and attracted to you, you can't really be sure of anything. Second most important thing is that "you have to be 'practical' and 'realistic' in these situations". There's no point in thinking too much about this. You can't read his mind, no matter how many times you examine every aspect of his actions and their possible relation to you. Trust me, I've tried. The only thing you can do is to start trying to figure out his opinion on homosexuality in general. You can mention that you read an article on the newspaper about LGBT/homosexuality and ask what he thinks about the subject. Or you can tell him that a relative of yours or someone he doesn't know (and doesn't exist, don't wanna be spreading rumours), just came out to you and you don't know what to say to him/her and you could ask him what he thinks you should tell them. Getting his view on homosexuality will tell you one thing for sure and may imply two others:

1. Whether he has a negative or positive attitude towards homosexuality. This way you'll know that, if you do decide to tell him you're gay, he'll either react positively or negatively.

And it might mean:

1. If he responds negatively, he's either straight and homophobic or gay or bi but in denial or extremely closeted. In either case, there's not much you can do. If he's straight, there's nothing you can do to change him. And if he's in denial or extremely closeted, it's not up to you to dig him out of there. Accepting one's own sexuality and that it's ok is something a person has to ultimately do and realize themselves. Either way, he is obviously not ready for a relationship and you would be better off finding someone else who can appreciate you and be a better bf for you. It sucks, I know, but (and I hate the phrase, myself) it's for the best.

2. If he responds positively, he's either simply pro-gay or gay or bisexual himself. This is a good sign, in general, and you can proceed to tell him you're gay when you feel comfortable without having fear that he'll stop being your friend soley for the reason that you're gay.

If his views are positive, you can go on to the next step which would be to tell him that you have feelings for him. Sadly, that is the only straightfoward and surest way. Sure, you can flirt, make passes at him, let him know in your own subtle way that you're interested but these things can easily be misinterpreted or go unnoticed which will only make things more frustrating for you. At some point you'll have to decide yourself whether it's worth letting him know how you feel and possibly making things awkward between you two. Mind you, these feelings for this Brian will most likely continue to grow as you get to know him better and keeping all that emotion bottled up inside will really mess with your head. Also, you need to ask yourself whether you can still be friends with him if he happens to not be able to feel the same about you. If you finally decide it's worth it, then let him know you want to have a talk with him about something serious and just go from there. You should do it when you're comfortable but, that said, it'll also need a lot courage and a huge leap of faith and you should do it soon, the more you prolong it, the longer you'll be left in the dark of "what if's?"

Most importantly, remember to focus more on 'action' rather than brooding on whether "he likes me, he likes me not". Doing nothing but over-thinking isn't healthy.

I hope this helps and I wish the best of luck to you, man. Whatever happens, you'll be alright.

Maybe you can try to bring up the topic of sexuality one way, or another. You can talk about how it's stupid that people try to label others and how society treats people just because of their race/if they're gay, etc. This might bring some intimacy in a topic like that. Make sure you give him signs back! Like the ones he's been giving you.

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Yeah ask him how he feels politically about sexually charged issues like gay marriage and gay rights. Then when he opens the door tell him how you feel about those subjects and then look at him and say......"I feel that way cuz I am like that." Then let it go for a bit. If he asks..tell him you are into him...if he does nothing then wait a bit and press him for a response. Good Luck

maybe you could just start dropping hints too, only stronger so he may get the idea. Or if you make it seem like you're not doing it on purpose...? am i making any sense?