why aren't i having an orgasm? 17 year old?

i hate to say this hun but you might be one of the percentage of women who cant orgasm. has he tried stimulating your clit or breast? has he tried going down on you? take your time and slowly have your boyfriend kiss and caress your body to find something that will work dont get frustrated things happen just relax and take your time

only 37% of the time women will orgasm. Where as 76% of the time men orgasm. (from Cosmopolitan) anyway you won't finish most of the time. You are really young and just started having sex so you aren't experienced and you most likely don't know what makes you finish. Sex gets better as you get older once you figure out what works for you. Just relax and enjoy the experience, don't worry about an orgasm ( if you do worry it will never come). Orgasm for women is mostly a mental thing, its not just about what he does it's also about you feeling comfortable. You can't be too comfortable in a car when at any moment someone could pull up and see everything. Can you make yourself finish? If so, show him what you do and teach him how to do it. Another thing you can do is finish yourself off and then do what you normally do. It will make it more intense. I hope this helps! Good luck!

No disturbing here, i understand...Ok well,

This is most commonly known as the g-spot.

have him finger you.

he should feel a kind frictiony/bumpy area

that is the g-spot

all u ahve to do is rub it in a kind of come here motion

then he should lick your clitoris.

If you want to do it during intercourse

you have to be laying down on your back

he must be REALLLY REALLY fast, and you should rub your cilitoros, which could give you an orgasm, but keep tryin. Sometimes its hard to for a woman to orgasm. My sister didnt until she was 20, with same man! I guess you just get more sensitive later? who knows.

There is a myth that vaginal intercourse is the road to orgasm. For some women it is, but for about 70% of women, a little extra help is needed: Direct clitoral stimulation.

To figure out what works for you, what kind of touch (firm or soft, fast or slow, and where exactly) you need for orgasm, you should start by masturbating. You may want to buy a vibrator, too. Below are links to two articles that should be very helpful in masturbating and finding your orgasm. (Teen friendly.) Once you have figured out what works for you, talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him what you learned, and even demonstrate if you think it will help. Many women find it helpful to use a vibrator during sex.

Don't be surprised if even after all of that education, you don't have an orgasm during penetrative sex. There is no guarantee that you will. But hopefully, sometimes you will have orgasms during other kinds of sex with your boyfriend, like manual or oral. Sex is not like in the movies or in pornography: It's more complicated, more diverse, more work, and more playful. There are no guarantees of orgasm, but if you are enjoying yourself, you're doing it right.

Good luck.

Apparently it is really common for a girl not to orgasm even if she is having the best sex ever. i once watched ITV's This Morning and during their sex week there was a girl who could have a orgasm no matter what she did and in the end she had to go to orgasm classes or therapy. This is not a joke eventhough it sounds like one. you tube this and watch it.

Join the club.

I have the exact same problem.. thank god I'm not the only one.. lol. Once you find out, lemme know. ha