how to solve my sisters daughter problem?

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My sister is a teacher. she has daughter and son. Her daughter is studying 10th class. Her behaviour is abnormal. She is not interested in studies since 4 years. She want to stop her studies. She doesn't interest in any activity. she is not interested in taking diet also. she is not mingled with any others. She is not giving respect to elders. She is scolding all people. She is creating a lot of problems in the house. once in  a week she is going to school. Even at that time is she is not following any thing in the school. From morning to night she is telling lies. She is beating others including her mother. I told them to give counselling to her. But her father is not showing interest. He is saying that once if take her to the doctor everybody will call her that she have mental. And not only that He does not want to spend even one rupee also. If my sister wants to spend he doesn't like that.  My sister and her children  and her in-laws are staying in that house. My brother-in-law is staying in another place and weekly once he will come. He wont take any responsibility. We are trying to talk with her daughter but no use. Sometimes she has been stolen money. Everyday she is shouting like anything. She want to sit idle. Even she is not interested in watching tv.  So how to solve her problem and how to change her as a good girl.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Approach some women's organisation

mx. know it all · Answer

She needs a good spanking.  And if her mother is not fit enough to do so, and her father does not care to do ANYTHING, then what can you do.  It is their problem.  Unless it affects you, like if she steals from you or bad mouths you, you don't have to take it, and just tell her to keep her mouth shut and not talk to you until she learns to behave.  Her mother is to be blamed for being beaten by her own daughter.  She should have punished her the day she raised her voice to her, why didn't she?  Now the result is that the child thinks she can get away with anything.  And if that father of her's does not take this responsibility seriously, well he is ruining her life.  

But I am sorry, unless your sister stands up to her husband and daughter, there is nothing you can do or say that will  make any difference to the girl.  Your sister has to do this HERSELF.  She seems either too lazy, or too afraid.

dannyboy · Answer

OMG, here is a girl suffering from a serious behavioral problem and nobody is bothered. They have allowed her problem to be aggravated. It is a serious psychiatric disorder, and she has to be placed under psychiatric care immediately. You cannot solve it on your own, and professional help is a must. Her father seems to be foolish in his behavior. What if the others call her mental when she is suffering from a mental disorder. People talk, but we should not bother about it, it is our duty to take care of our near and dear ones. Advise your brother in law to stop being miserly and tell him that a child's future is involved. At least you take the responsibility in getting her treated. Somebody has to. First consult a psychiatrist and then bother about the financial problems. The poor child has suffered enough due to your negligence and indifference. Maybe, there might be be some organisation or person to support her financially. Advise your sister to disregard her father's orders and get her treated with the money earned by her.

? · Answer

Well I can try to give some advice...You stated that you tried talking to her but she will not talk...you want her to go into counseling but her dad don't...if it is not a money issue maybe she need to talk to some one...if it is maybe her mother or yourself not both you guys @ the same time bc she might feel like she is being attacked???sit down and give her a journal to write her thoughts...maybe something happened to her 4 years ago and don't know how to tell anyone and she is acting out in the wrong way...maybe she wants more attention but feels she is not getting it unless she acts out???maybe she need help to build up her self-esteem (if she have a self-esteem problem)... hope this helps...good luck

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely something is going on with her. Her parents should take her to a shrink,
I know what people are going to talk about, but that's no reason to deny her the help
She needed. Or her mother should spent some quality time with her, asking about
Everything going on with her in a subtle way,the key is to keep the line of communication open.

ADMIRAL · Answer

This girl is showing signs of schizophrenia,get medical check up to about her early stage hiding disease due to society will ruin her life.Admiral V K Singh

sateesh_inamdar · Answer

Is there any person with whom she is comparitively comfortable?Let that person take her somewhere on holiday.Problem is not the girl.Problem is understanding her.Elders should take full responsibility.At least do not scold her for three days.Just bear with her.

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