People at work don't like me. How do I deal with this situation?

I was impressed with this question; your honesty and the words you chose to phrase it. So, I went to your profile to add you as one of my contacts. You have this blocked from anyone in the Yahoo Answers Community. I found this very interesting. Maybe, you do not realize that some people are INCORRECTLY thinking that YOU think you are somehow better than they are. This will repel almost anyone, immediately.

I do not believe that you think this. In fact, you seem like the kind of person who once you have actually become someones friend, you are their friend for life (barring any unforeseen trespasses), and that is rare to find.

You seem intelligent, confident, and I bet you're pretty. Not to worry, I am a 42 year old woman and I have been in a long term relationship with my man for many years. My point?

They are intimidated. Jealous. Or maybe just not quite sure what to make of you. In any case, you keep being exactly who you are, be proud, and DO NOT let them bring you to their level. Keep your head high and mind your own life, someday the APPROPRIATE people will come along, see you for who you are and cherish you in their own way. Until then, don't give this another thought. Really. They are not worth it.

I find it interesting that you say you don't care what people think about you, but spent time to write a 3 paragraph diatribe asking why they don't like you. Peculiar.

Anyway, people at work may have varying reasons for not liking you. Interaction at work is much more complicated than in other places. I've never seen a work environment where everyone liked everyone else. I think that's because the people at work don't choose to hang out together. They are there for money, and are therefore forced to spend time with people who they would normally not associate. You may be dealing with competition for sales, raises, etc. You may have inadvertently offended someone and the rest piled on. Maybe you dress nicer than others. Who knows.

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some work places are like school yards and they tend to hang in packs and fined some on to point the finger at as being a teachers pet or the odd baler

i get along with 95% of people but sometimes there is the group you just cant relate to

id suggest study there work habits if they seem to screw about and are slow workers were your the type that works hard and reports to the boss all the time this might be a good reason

find out what they like or if theres a snack food they all enjoy at work and bring some in for everyone to share at lunch break example order pizza's or bring in donuts and just tell a couple of them as you walk in that your putting them in the staff room for everyone

you mention your no door mat but be a team player if you see one of them struggling offer to help out just from time to time and tell them they owe you one

theres a couple of ideas to try ive worked in alot of team environments so that info really is golden

Well, I don't know you so it's hard to have an informed opinion. However I would say it's probably jealousy. You're smiling so people probably think you're happier than they. You have the confidence to be yourself so that gets on people's nerves because they don't have the same confidence.

It's also possible that maybe you're subconsciously looking down on people and they sense it. Or it could just be jealousy.

That's life, hun. Each cloud has a silver lining and sunny days usually have a little cloud somewhere.

you know, with all respect, this is something we called "keeping accounts". It's when you make a mental list of everyone else's problems and failings.

I'd just stop doing that. If people don't like you, I really doubt its a conspiracy. I mean, after all, one's being attracts one's life. Meaning, there is something you are doing, quite unconsciously, under even YOUR radar but NOT UNDER THEIRS and whatever this something is, it irritates them.

One of the most difficult things for us to do is to try to see ourselves as other people see us.

Maybe they actually fear you because you are proving all their conditioned stereotypes wrong, you're making them rethink old standards. By not playing the ghetto/gangsta girl your making them realize that everything they always thought is WRONG.....and people hate being wrong, especially to themselves.

They just envy you for what you have going for yourself.Just ignore it go there and do your job.Just continue being you and don`t let the haters get you down.