I love him but I can't love his daughter?

the thing is if you admit that you can't love her, YOU are the one who has to leave..the thing is that your boyfriend came with a daughter, his own blood related family...and you're the newcomer into their family..honestly if you can't stand her, leave now...it will save all of you some pain and frustration that is bound to happen since you state that you cannot love her like you would love your own

Well this is a tough one. I guess you could just see him when she is in bed or with her mother. I have been seeing a girl for 3 months and she has a little 3 year old but I see very little of her because my girlfriend doesn't think it would be good for her to get to know me and become attached.

She is only 4 and as she grows up she will change and mature so throwing away a relationship with a man you love is extreme

Your b/f comes with a daughter. She's not going anywhere. If this is a problem for you now, it will be a problem for you later. If you can't love his daughter, she will sense that and nothing good will come of it. She's already living with a split family and it sounds like the mother is spoiling her to make up for it. Your b/f is a package deal. Her mother is her influence, good or bad - that's her mom. If you're not able to deal with all that's going on with that family, it will only cause more of a complication in their lives and that's definitely not good for him, her, or you.

No. If you have a problem with his daughter you need to leave now because it's not fair to her to have you as a potential step mother when you really dont care for her. Also, what 4 year old isn't a brat?!

She is a little girl whos parents have split up, and she is being passed from pilar to post. So she is probably in turmoil. And yes, a bit spoilt because what she wants, she gets, because parents feel guilty.

What you need to do, is have a "different" relationship to her. So instead of you buying anything, why dont you "do things" with her, as it would be more appreciated. For instance, baking, finger painting, going to the park and feeding ducks, or give sketch pictures of birds, dogs, and cats and then let her count them by ticking them.

When she is older, she will remember the times she spend with your, rather than a doll that her mum bought.

His daughter will always come first his ex is probably jealous and will try to cause as much trouble as possible between you. Why does the mother not have care? Walk away its not going to work. I know all about it

If you cannot love her ? You need to walk away from this relationship.

It does not matter what the mother does, she is the mother and you have nothing to say about it.

You will not make it, that is his daughter and eventually ? You will be the outcast.

Do everyone a favor and leave.

first of all thats his daughter. so his daughter is his world. I have a daughter myself and I would never pick anyone over my child. if you cant stand his daughter hen just leave because you need to accept his daughter and treat her good in order for your relationship to work. since you cant do that then just go

End it now. You are just going to cause that little girl pain. You have to realize that she's FOUR. That's how they act. You are not a mother, so you wouldn't really get that.

Eliminate the small BRAT.