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I get butterflies around this girl but I think? I'm straight(I'm a girl)?

So awkward start but guys physically turn me on and I KNOW that but several months ago I took ambien for the first time with my best friend and her friend and we drank a lot of alcohol too. I did NOT like ambien and am never going to do it again but the point is we were all messed up. The other friend fingered my best friend and we all kissed. So I absolutely know that they are straight. The other friend kind of initiated all of it but still.

So to the point, I enjoyed kissing my best friend. I did not enjoy kissing the other girl. I didn't like it at all. But I have a very, very strong emotional connection with my best friend. We have been friends for the longest time so her and I talked about it and she was upset (mostly because the other girl fingered her) and it didn't really affect me. Like I kind of wondered if I was a lesbian or bi.

Then just this past week (this is a few months later now) I get butterflies like when I have a crush on a guy when she sits really close to me or make intimate contact and the thought of kissing and hugging her sounds really nice but not taking it any further.

So what does this make me?

I'm super confused because being a lesbian or bi doesn't make sense because it's just with her and I have no interest in taking it further.

thanks for reading this by the way

Update:

I'm 16. But, if I was bi wouldn't I want to take it further than kissing?

And I never even considered girls until after this event. And not even girls, just my best friend

Update 2:

Thanks to everyone for the answers! Keep em coming please

Update 3:

So so far... Three people think I may be bi and three think I'm straight. Anyone else have an opinion haha?

Update 4:

3rd 5th... I don't remember having crushes really at all then but in 6th 7th 8th and 9th it was always a guy that I was like head over heels in crush with. haha. Or one guy I was in love with. Like deeply romantic. We're still close.

It's really just this one girl

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    lots of people's sexuality isn't 100% straight or 100% gay. I say straight if you have liked guys before. i always tell people to look back in 3rd 4th 5th grade and ask them who they crushed on, and that is usually your answer. good luck !!

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    I've had the same thing done but just with my best friend. I don't believe that because of an event, that that makes you lesbian or bi. It's not an identity and you aren't born that way. We all have self control and if you feel conflicted about it, talk about it and be honest. It's kind of condemning in a way to label yourself something. i don't know if that makes sense.

  • 5 years ago

    before everything, whether you're sexually/romantically drawn to her, that doesn't propose you're a lesbian (and in case you have crushes on men, you're no longer a lesbian). you would be able to desire to be bi-curious, bisexual, pansexual (like bisexual yet no longer discluding any gender, jointly with trans, inbetween, and neither), having a woman overwhelm or something like that. So yeah, would desire to be any of those or you're in basic terms relatively excited which you would be getting a clean buddy.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Girls can be like this. Most straight men will hate having sex with a guy.

    But most straight women can actually enjoy having sex with another woman.

    Men through evolution are more hardwired because if they never chased the female and mate with her the species would end. So really men are slightly more attracted to woman than woman are attracted to men.

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  • lila
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    You're young, you're curious, you don't know exactly who you are yet. I don't believe you're bi, I just think you enjoyed kissing your best friend because you have such a strong connection with her and you love her (as a friend)

  • 1 decade ago

    Um... how old are you? Anyway I belive it's just a crush. You may be bi-sexual, but it's quite alright wit me.

  • 1 decade ago

    first talk to your doctor about side effects.

    if this is not a side effect of ambien then because you are a teenager your body is still developing and maybe your hormones are now saying you like girls too.

    if you still feel unsure see a therapist/counselor. they know a lot about this stuff

    Source(s): i am a lesbian. i'm saying this stuff not for you to join my team but because i know what it feels like to be confused.
  • 1 decade ago

    Your teen hormones want you to experiment. Ive had the same problem, think about the situation very carefully. Your are straight right, just try your best to control. Your not lesbian or bi, unless you want to be. Hope i helped :)

    Source(s): Past expirence.
  • 7 years ago

    Trust me, you are straight.. This is quite common in girls...

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i think your bi lol even if it is just tht one frl (im not gay or bi) lol

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