how would u react with ur husband if you face this situation?

Have you ever stopped to consider why people do the things they do? I mean, even if everything his cousin claimed was completely true, what possible reason could she have for telling such a thing except to cause hurt and trouble between you and your husband? Your husband may realize this about her; he's known her longer, so it's likely he's had to devise ways of dealing with her over the years....part of those ways could be to ignore her or keep her unaware of the impact she's having. I think your anger is misplaced and is playing right into the hands of the person who started this in the first place. In this case,kill the messenger...metaphorically, of course.

What ?? I did not understand half of what you said ? But what I did get . I think that you are over reacting . 1st maybe the cousin should have just kept their mouth shut ? Why bring this Up now ? Are you happy in your marriage ? Do you love your husband ? Does he love you ? The past is the Past . What good would it do for him to confront this cousin and get into a big family ordeal over something you can not change anyway because its the past .. Move on get over it !

I think YOU are over reactting.. so what if his cousin wants to run her mouth.. fact is he obviously loves you.. fact is , he's YOUR husband.. Fact is you share a family and a life with this man.. NO ONE ELSE.. so whatever happened in the past , is just that IN THE PAST.. stop dweling in it..she wanted a reaction out of you and she got one.. so what if thats her oppinion... so what if that is in fact what actually happened.. fact is that her loss was your gain.. im sure before your husband you had bf's and perhaps thought at times u'd marry someone other then your husband..but life happened and things happened to bring u both together.. so who cares what happened to get u there.. concentrate on what you have NOW.. she's family and its hard to x out family members.. you said it yourself he's not doing anything wrong.. so let it go.. sounds like you have a pretty good husband, and perhaps you need to ask yourself why your husband would feel the need not to be totally honest with u from the start when it comes to telling u things, perhaps u make him feel he cant be honest with u.. perhaps u need to have alittle more self confidence, and be alittle more open to your husband, and stop believing everyone else over your husband..

I don't fully understand what's going on....you're upset b/c your husband isn't mad at his cousin?

The cousin is a drama queen and lacks discretion and decorum (typical in the US). You're husband is trying to avoid conflict (also typical).

Let it go.

She sounds like a drama queen. She's trying to make trouble.

You sound like a drama queen. You're buying into it.

And you're blaming your husband for it. Poor sod can't buy a break.

BTW.

Have you clued your husband in about all the particulars of YOUR prior relationships? Or isn't that any of his business?

So have you explained why what she said pissed you off to him

He is a MAN, not a telepath, if you want him to do something, you explain it wit small words, broken down into step in sequential order, or the desired end result.