Why is it so hard to stay committed?

Because many do not have faith that there is something bigger than themselves that is supportive of them, and then a lot of us do not love ourselves, which makes it impossible to love others.

Regarding the partner/spouse bit at least, I think a big part of it that most people don't get is just getting along with their spouse. I'm going to be married within the year, and my fiancee and I have been together for about two and a half years. It's a long distance relationship, she's in the UK, and I'm in America most of the time, but we're able to stay purely commited because we get along so well. She's not only my future wife, but one of my closest and dearest friends.

I know quite a few couples that don't have that, that just don't get on with their spouses and have common interests, or just things that they can do together. Having mutual friends and common activities can help you reach a common ground and take some of the stress off of each other.

Because although we've been taught that people don't ever change, that's not true. We change all the time, but we do so when we're ready, not when other's tell us to. You are not the same person you were 10 years ago, and you are also not the person you will be 10 years from now. Just becasue someone falls in love with you today, it is not a guarantee that they will love you forever. As changes happen in our lives, our partners will either accept the changes we go through or not. When changes happen that make us unhappy, we are forced to re-evaluate the committment. Traditionally we've been taught that we should stay with the person we've made a committment to regardless of any changes. Today we are more inclined to stay with the person as long as we are changing and growing together, but when differences start to cause problems, we know it's healthier to dissolve the partnership than to continue in a situation where we are not happy.

Love and partnerships should be about balance. There is no point in staying committed to a person who no longer makes you happy. While this decision should certainly not be made lightly, it's important that we be true to ourselves and not stay with someone just because we made a committment. In my opinion, I only want my man next to me if that's where he wants to be. The minute he decides he's not happy with me, he knows where the door is.

Our happiness should never depend on anyone else.

From the moment we're conceived are basically selfish creatures. We want what we want when we want it. Our expectations are directly or indirectly tangled up in our own wants and needs.

As we mature, we learn that we are not the center of everyone's universe and, hopefully, learn to adapt and derive satisfaction from meeting the needs of others. Some people progress further than others.

It's far easier to maintain a committed relationship when both participants are mature, emotionally stable, and care as much about the other person as they do about themselves. Not everyone has reached that level of maturity and unselfishness. Some people never attain it. Many times failed relationships were unbalanced to begin with but one or both of the participants rushed into the relationship because he/she thought it could be somehow transformed to meet his/her needs.

We're human and flawed. Our pride is the root of virtually all of our personal problems.

Think about it like this: Imagine eating your favorite meal and nothing else every day for the rest of your life. Humans crave variety.

Also, it's extremely rare that one person will meet all of our needs in all aspects of our lives. People instinctively look for ways to have their needs met.

Finally, it's a lot of work to be constantly considerate of your partner and at the same time to be constantly forgiving when they make mistakes. It's a lot easier to be resentful and that drives a wedge between couples.

Not saying it's right...just that it's how it is.

Because it became acceptable to be a quitter and not try when the hippies started having kids.

Go to a soccer game and watch them play... the score would be 35-2 if they kept score, but they don't and all the kids get trophies!

Even little Timmy that stood there staring at the grass the whole game.

I think it would be hard to be committed if I wasn't with the right person. I really like and love my husband and he's a good guy so it's easy to stay committed to him.

If you have to ask yourself that question maybe you were not ready to be married.

It's not...when you're with the right person.

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