Why would he prefer to watch porn over sex with me?

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That is a strange one. I love it when my wife watches porn with me. She gets more aroused by it than I do most of the time, and we end up never really watching the end of the flick.

How have you approached him when he is watching porn? He could feel like he is being judged by you by the way he is hiding and isolating. When you have tried to watch it with him before, what is your personal attitude about the subject matter on the screen? Do you criticize and belittle the actors in the movie. What is your body language conveying to him when you are in the room and he is watching?

All of these things could be a signal to him that you hate porn, and are simply there to keep an eye on him in his "perverted" pastime. So he isolates himself in fear of being judged.

This could be how he views your position with him liking pornography.

Here is a way to see if this is true. Go to your local DVD rental place, (or buy one off the internet), and bring home a porno without his knowledge. When you are alone together tell him you have an adult movie that he might like. Pop it in, and sit down with him to watch.

If he still refuses, then you definitely both have more of a problem than just porn. Most men I know would kill to have their wife bring home porn and WANT TO share it with them.

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If watching porn has become an every day event for him, I would think that this has become more of an addiction than just a way to pass some spare time.

If this has been going on for more than a year, you may want to get some marital counseling. However, this would require his willingness, honesty and participation. From your description, I doubt he would acknowledge there is a problem and agree to attend.

Try my first suggestion, and see where it takes you. If that doesn't work, then you should try some marital counseling.

Good luck and best wishes to the both of you.

act like the girls in his porn. if he is turning there to fulfil what ever fantasy is in his head show him that it can be come real and he doesnt have to use his hand because he has you. guys look at porn because it shows them (in a lot of cases) a type of sex that they will never have and allows them to pretend that they are a part of that fantasy. try watching a porn (a story one not just sex sex sex) and get an idea. You want to surprise him with a porn scene come to life. He comes home from work and you ask for help hanging a picture (or what ever you come up with ) and suddenly your shirt "accidentally" pops open with no bra on (I'm just free styling this depending on the porn he likes this situation may not apply) or hell next time hes watching just come over naked and take over, enact the scene he is watching even.

good luck

For variety. He has discovered the wide variety of porn on the net and also discovered the tingle that it gives him. Are you actually serious about watching it with him? If so then instead of just offering to watch it with him wait til he is involved in it sometime and then just go join him. Make some sexy comments about it, touch him, touch yourself, perhaps jack him off a bit, bare your breasts and rub your nipples. Let him know that you are NOT going to make him feel embarrassed over the fact that he is watching it. If you willingly involve yourself in it you may find the frequency of your sexual encounters with him making a drastic increase. If you take this approach then the first time you do it don't go to fast and be a bit watchful for a growing irritation on his part as it is possible that he may view your interest in "his porn" as in intrusion into his privacy so be prepared to backtrack a little bit and take a different approach to joining him.

you recognize an prolonged time of you and him on loads of those questions are somewhat substantial. i'm wager with a 7 and a three 365 days previous your the two in the mid 30's? So your on your sexual best and he's slowing down. i've got faith its everyday for a male in his 30's to bypass to porn. as quickly as a male has has an excellent volume of intercourse he gets bored and looks to no longer merely different physique varieties of girls than your physique form yet in addition diverse intercourse acts than the norm. certainty is porn is unfastened and handy. The extra warmer the ladies he sees the fewer probably he's gonna decide for intercourse from you. returned in the previous days maximum porn grow to be merely print and in many circumstances the ladies have been of a standard physique form. Now if a guy needs to work out a 60lb 5'3 anorexic female or a 500lb fattie he can locate it, additionally all varieties of video clips are available to help a guy "see" his dream sexual acts. We adult men decide for to accomplish a little distinctly nasty stuff to females and extremely few females will additionally evaluate it. recently maximum women of each age decide for to be in porn the 2nd they pay attention approximately it. that may not easy to describe i will merely say maximum females dream approximately being in porn and spot getting sexually specific pictures/video clips of them performed are an actual of passage. My suggestion to you is to bypass via his sequence look at each and all the photos and spot what kinda intercourse acts he's into and tell him you decide on for to do those intercourse acts with him.

I think the first two answers are correct. Your husband is addicted to something he feels he is / can only get from the porn he watches. Perhaps its something he doesnt want to ask you for or something impossible for you to provide. Either way he needs to pull back from the fantasy world and face reality again. It is entirely too easy to find something that triggers the sexual buttons enhanced to unreal degrees online. It becomes harder to focus on working with reality to find similar triggers. Not sure how to get this through to him but its a place to start.

The warning flag is that he doesn't want to be with you in his private porno hour. You don't have to reduce yourself to watch it with him either. He is being emotional abusive by replacing you with other women which is damaging a healthy growth to the marriage. He might go out and be with a woman that looks like the women he is watching, a stripper, or a prostitute. He is also addicted to porn, and is being extremely selfish, which again is mental and emotional abusive to you. You will have to be stronger in your ultimatum with him.

I don't doubt that you love him but is he not showing love to you with this immature, selfish, cold fish behavior towards you. You don't have to take that and he will continue if you don't do something to show him you mean it.

Best to you, but keeping trying to deter him from what he's doing to you. There's nothing wrong with saying, look its the porn or me.

watching naughty movies should enhance the bedroom and he is a selfish asshole! 20 times in a year is neglect! Divorce that creep!

It sounds like he has a sex-addiction problem. He needs help! It's not anything that you've done to cause his behavior. He's living in fantasy land!