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He always orgasms, i don't?

So, i've been in my first sexual relationship for 7 months; we have it often and its been amazing

however recently, i really cannot orgasm. He always does which is slightly soul destroying :(

I love him, and i find him attractive so that dosent seem to be the problem, and we've tryed out loads of positions... so i don't know whats happened!

Sometimes i orgasm when i pleasure myself whilst he's penetrating .. but the penetrating dosen't really do anything :S

How can i orgasm with him?! Its annoying :(

Update:

ok.. the fact that someone thinks "my vage is too loose" has made me REALLY depressed

ive only been having sex with one person for 7 months!

fml :'(

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    You really have to tell him what you want..have him do multiple things to you while penetrating..like suckin your breasts, playing with your clitoris, whispering sexy things in your ears...just have him to foreplay a little...

  • 1 decade ago

    I have seen statistics that say only 30% of girls get an orgasm through penetration.

    I very much doubt it has anything to do with your vagina being too loose. This only happens to women when they are much older and have been through childbirth etc. Nevertheless you could contract your PC muscles and this will really tighten your vagina. To locate your PC muscles, when you are peeing, simply try to hold the pee in, and the muscles you are using there are your PC's.

    Otherwise you may get more stimulated via oral, or you might just need more foreplay. I have a little "special move" that I have used on the ladies which has them screaming and every single time it has worked.

    http://sexsecretsblog.com/the-kivin-method-guarant...

    You can search the internet for many different moves though and I'm sure some will get your reaching the big O. At the end of the day it's your boyfriends job to satisfy you so tell him to get searching lol! Good luck.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    He has to give you oral sex continuously. Most like even though you find him attractive it's not enough to make you explode. I think if you tried multiple positions and you still don't reach your peak it's him. I understand that you don't want to think of it that way but if you make yourself orgasm and he doesn't that's not good. You've done everything right it's going to be annoying because you don't find him that attractive when it comes to sex. In order for you to have amazing sex both of you have to reach your peak not just one. I think you should try more 4 play I think you should also make him pleasure you first before he penetrates you also maybe you should invest in some toys. What always worked for me when I was with a girl that didn’t do it for me was fantasize about someone else.

  • Wiz
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    The obvious answer is longer foreplay. From what you say, there probably is almost none. Sexual intercourse is often not enough to bring a woman to orgasm, especially if she is not sufficiently aroused before penetration. Have him delay penetration while engaging in foreplay until you are ready, and/or perform oral sex on you first. His goal should be mutual pleasure not just his pleasure.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Well there is a fact that some girls just can't get off from sex with a guy. I know I had my first sexual relationship and neither of us could get off, it felt good, but thats all.

    So all I can say is a couple of things, maybe it means you two just aren't ready for a sexual relationship if you can get yourself off but he can't get you off. Or maybe in time you will get to know each other's bodies better and it will get better.

  • 1 decade ago

    sounds like he needs to last longer. if you get no arousal whatsoever from him being in you, something esle is going on. but, 7 mo is a good amount of time for your body to adjust i would say the longer youv been doing it the longer you have to next time.

  • 1 decade ago

    1st That's really really sad.

    2nd I can't help you as I'm not a girl :L.

    3rd It could be possible either you're not narrow enough to feel it well enough to have an orgasm or worse mr's dick isn't wide enough when in erection, or both.

  • 1 decade ago

    you have to take control, guys naturally orgasm faster than girls so if you show him what you want him to do, maybe you'll have more luck :]

    helpme puhleaseee :]

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnP9c...

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Tell him to last longer.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    your vagage is probably too loose and thats why..if it was tight you would actually feel it going in you and it would make u orgasm...or his manhood is probably under 5 inches long..

    Source(s): mine is a bit curved down,I call him curvy xD ....hot huh?
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