If you were in this situation, what would you do?

If you were in this situation, what would you do?

If you're a man and during you're college years you met a lady whom you have feelings for but then just before you were about to court her she had a boyfriend, so the only closest you could get to her was being a friend.

you become her crying shoulder but after that when she gets okay, she'll not be as close to you as when she's hurting. she tells you you're her bestfriend, and she suddenly says 'i love you' in her messages but only for a short while (1-2months)

after sometime (maybe 3-4 years), she goes to another country to become an overseas worker. you find out that she and her boyfriend are having quarrels and that they might have called their relationship off. you try to contact her but there are no answers. so again you wait for more than 1 year but you don't hear anything from her (no replies from her even though you e-mail her for more than a year that you're waiting, and you can't call her since the phone number she gave has already become offline and you have no idea whether she still works in the same company or has got another job)

then, another woman comes along in you're life but you still aren't sure if you're feelings for her is love or maybe it's just because you feel lonely and you're longing for someone to love you. you suddenly enjoy hanging out with her. and you go out for maybe 2-3 months, but most of the time when you go out, signs from the woman you first fell in love with haunt you (i.e. you see her name in the side ad of a bus that you board on, you see the date of her birthday on a billboard, you hear her favorite song in the coffee shop where you date with the second woman, and you even see her name in the credits of the movie you watch,and her name is not a common name)

after 3 months of going out with the 2nd woman, she suddenly tells you that she'll also be going to another country to have a job there in the next year. (and never in your life did you ever had a girlfriend)

here comes, the problem - You become caught in the middle: So who would you choose, the First woman or the Second one(i mean, would you still wait for the first woman where your chance of seeing her again is slim, or would you rather take the chance with the 2nd woman)? and please state Why?