What is the hardest part about being a mother? being a step mother?

The very hardest thing I had to deal with being a step-mother was after 9 years of full custody, my kids got mad at me for some stupid reason, and said, "You're not our mother. We don't even think of you as part of our family." After talking with my husband, we decided I could take a break and stay at a friend's house for a couple of days, because I was so hurt I didn't want to deal with the kids for a little while. After a while, I realized that kids will use any ammo they have against you when they're mad, and not mean a word of it. They'll do this with their birth parents, too.

Now that my kids are grown, they are definitely MY kids, and don't even remember saying that to me. When I reminded my daughter about it, she cried because she felt so bad that they could have been so cruel. Just remember that we all can tell the ones we love most, "I hate you" and other awful things, when mostly, it means we are just having problems communicating our true feelings. To be a good mom, we have to be the b*tch sometimes, or we'd give our kids permission to run out in traffic, and eat nothing but ice cream all day, every day!

I hope the best for you. B)

To address the answer from Sunkist: One of my sons and I had a few battles because I wanted things done in a different way than his birth mom. I finally had to invoke the horrid "My house, my rules" line!

Being a step mom is one of the hardest things yet. Especially when the mother works against you instead of with you. I am about to go insane with it. Being a mom to my daughter is a piece of cake pretty much if you parent and raise your kids right. But helping to raise someone else's when you have different beliefs on how it should be done is hard.

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The hardest part of being a mother for me is letting go of the hand I have held for 18 years. I hate the fact that one day I will have to face the 'empty nest' syndrome.

if ur gonna be a step mum take note

if ur man has a daughter BACK OFF A BIT yes hes ur husband or wht but he has a baby girl

i had a step mum and we was aways fighting over my dad and i was the one getting into trouble

my step mum then had my dad agree to kick me out at 16

so yh thts how i see it

well it starts with staying in the kitchen .. and results in making an endless supply of sandwiches