Why do I hate my boyfriend's dog?? (long, sorry)?

I don't know WHY you hate the dog. That's something a shrink would have to figure out, and help you deal with, and it might take numerous sessions. You need to go over to the Psych section for that, or see if you can get some free counseling from your local Human & Social Services Dept.

However, since you are here and I do have a few college hours in it, I can tell you that if you feel it's impossible to change your hate to love (pardon, I got interrupted), then it's impossible, for you; but perhaps not other people in a similar situation for the following reason: The power of the mind is amazing. People can actually cause physical manifestations of illness to themselves.

Add: I remembered how I was going to sum it up: As a human, you are a free moral agent. You can make intelligent choices. A dog is largely the result of his genetics. They can be trained, but if you've thought about it, you know there are dogs that there is no way in jell they would ever make a service dog that could be trusted completely with a handicapped person. One who flunked out for guiding blind people might be alternatively trained for something else not so critical, but hopefully you get my point.

In other words, it's up to you whether you ever love the dog or not. Ignoring the dog is not a positive step. Hating him actively sure isn't. Having empathy is. Yeah, I know, how do you put yourself in a dog's place? It is hard, unless you've been there yourself. People have trouble with that because most people have a pud's life compared to dogs. Think about the Vick dogs. Did they ask to fight, or be bred with that tendency? No. that's why Best Friends took them and rehabilitated all but a couple. And the one or two that couldn't be will live out their lives separated from other dogs because of something they cannot help and were not responsible for.

What worries me is that neither of you seem to realize that "Pit Bull" spells DOG-aggressive (not people aggressive, and you did say he's mixed with APBT), and he's got the chops to do some severe damage to yours, as in permanently. Is he neutered? Has your bf made any attempt to train him? Have you consulted a (professional) trainer for help with this?

If he's attacked your dog 3 times, it's about time for some drastic measures. I suggest a muzzle and temperament evaluation without delay, and then go from there.

Add: Well, after all the information that's really irrelevant, since you don't think he needs to be trained, the real issue is you. As already stated, you need to repost on the Psych section, or see if you qualify for free counseling from your local gov. office. All you're going to get here is advice for what to do with the dog (or the bf).

First of all, don't just get rid of the dog. He is obviously attached to her and he may never forgive you if she was gone when he came home from work. They are a package deal now. You have to accept them both. If I were you, I would start the training myself. Be very encouraging and reward her when she does it right....Buy some potty pads for the kitchen. Train her to pee on those. It's really easy to do. It doesn't sound like he's going to be too involved in the training part but, he'll love you for the effort and you may end up with a perfectly trained dog. All she needs is instruction, positive re-enforcement and some treats. Do not ever underestimate the power of a treat. Good luck. It shouldn't take too long. Just show the dog what she needs to do. She probably has no idea. I hope this could help

"which I had to do all three times."

And why isn't the boyfriend making sure this doesn't happen? See, I would go shopping for a new boyfriend. There's probably a lot more going on between you two that has nothing to do with the dogs. I sense you two aren't a good match.

Edit: Would have been nice to know that the boyfriend wasn't home or that he does do something about it.

I still would go shopping for a new boyfriend being as you hate his dog...seriously. This isn't going to turn out good. Doesn't sound like a match. The dog is aggressive towards your dog. What if it's aggressive towards your children? Will you still tolerate the dog? Would he still want the dog?

Maybe you could train the dog yourself. This dog attacks your small dog. You don't deal with the hate. You change the situation. Something has to change.

If you love your boyfriend try to at least like the dog. Not everyone is a dog person...and it sounds like your not. Your boyfriend can probably tell you hate his dog, so I'd try talking to him. Just don't say, "It's me or the dog" because you might not like the answer. Good luck...