****Why is it I only attract the wrong ones....?

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I was attracted to this man and he was to me, and we were planning on starting to see each other, etc. (read my previous question for more details), and today, I discovered he is still married (!!!) but separated, (wife still living under same roof but apparently can't afford to live on her own), he's been arrested, etc. Anyway, back to my question.

Why is it, a professional, financially and emotionally balanced, and intelligent woman like me, can only seem to attract the low/no income guys, trouble with the law, etc. /losers???!!! It is so true when they say that the higher up you go, the lonelier it gets at the top! Why can't I not find a doctor, teacher, nurse, engeneer, etc. some other professional to be attracted to me? I know I sound desperate for a guy, but I am not desperate for a guy, I am desperate to find a 'good, normal, faithful, professional or financially stable/in my salary bracket, guy. All my adult life, which is about 20 years, I've never attracted professionals. How do I attract professionals and stop attracting losers? Is it because I subconsciously feel pity for them? My self-esteem is not low, I am a happy person. But it irritates me and discourages me that I always fall in this trap of finding/attracting Mr.Wrong.

It is discouraging, not to mention, the guys that seem good, well, sigh, they end up being the cheater type. sigh. Any hints what I can do? I am not in a hurry to find a guy, but I am hoping before the next 5 years at least. I'm in my forties.

Softtouchmale · Accepted Answer

Like the old song, "Better Shop Around". Keep looking. Angle the bait out there.

Look for a guy who's financially stable, professional preferably, and has a big, kind heart.

Oh yes, and DOES NOT have a criminal record, an existent marriage, or significant other attached to him.

Pets are acceptable I presume?

? · Answer

Something you could do, if you like, is to make a special effort to spend time with people who are in the social class etc that you like. So, some kind of singles group or an adult class of some kind or a church group if you're into that.

A question you might want to ask yourself is this:" Am I attracted to the wrong guys? If so, how come?"

Lord Helmet · Answer

You're attracted to all the high status guys, who, unfortunately for you, are all either married off by this time, or chasing after younger tail. It's brutal but often the case.

And where do you look to meet guys? Bars? Church? Community events? Through mutual friends? You might do some research on cities with more single guys in them.

? · Answer

Just maybe you think that you can fix them.  Ask yourself if you like to be in control.  Some school teachers love having control of the classroom and the same goes for health care nurses.  Nurse's are in control of their patients.  Regards,  Dale

Anonymous · Answer

You're probably looking for guys that need you (subconsciously) and that's understandable because they're not boring.  You probably think you want a professional, but they come with alot less drama than you actually want.

divvie :]] · Answer

Keep searching! :) There's someone out there for everyone. Good luck!

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