****HOW TO ATTRACT PROFESSIONALS OR FINANCIALLY STABLE AND INTELLIGENT MEN....?

Stop by a Borders or similar book shop. Hang out there and see what turns up.

Do not go shopping in bars, unless its during lunch time near the hospital or courthouse.

I have a few simple tips that might help. First of all, make a conscious effort not to hook up with dead-beats. Now of course there are always going to be people who lie, but for the most part with people in general, what you see is what you get. Go for the guy in the pin stripe suit, rather than the guy that wears jeans and a Tshirt. The second thing is advertise out what you want to get back. If you want a professional, dress like a professional yourself. If you wear your nice-butt jeans, with heels and a low cut halter top, you're not going to attract a professional. instead, wear nice slacks, heels and a low cut blouse, sexy but CLASSY and you will attract more mature men. Or wear a pencil skirt instead of a mini skirt. Third take note where you're meeting them. You probably won't find a guy who is planning to settle down at the nearest hump-hump sailor bar. Try salsa clubs, line dancing, or take up a hobby. Ever try golfing? VERY sophisticated men play golf, and also it's not CHEAP so you know if you meet a guy there he's not broke or un-employed. Also, if you're a beginner there might be a cutie who will want to help you with your swing :) Go to bars with cover charges. Penny pinchers and losers go for cheapest..... bars with no cover. People that have $$ pay the cover to weed out the loser crowd.

Try these, and see if you come up with a different selection of men :)

If you think about it, it makes sense. Those individuals who are more interested in people and partying than studying and success tend to be more outgoing. So they attract your attention and catch your eye. Then you find out they're no good for you. Professional men are often more cautious in how they approach dating, which is why they seem more difficult to come by.

Also, you say that you are in your 40s. I'm only 27, but I would think that it is a bit more difficult to find a man when you are 40 than when you are in your 20s. I mean, those who wanted to get married, married in their 20s or 30s already. So it could be that the number of ex-husbands or guys who cannot commit are more available for your age group.

Do you have any friends with single guy friends around your age? Perhaps they could set you up on a date with a guy they feel is a good guy. Or what about going to a big church in your area and see if there are any single guys your age there. Even if you are not religious, typically guys who go to church on their own free will are trying to lead a good life and will likely be honest and not cheaters.

I hope that helps. Good luck attracting a quality man!!

Well, you may be looking in the wrong place and also have the wrong idea. Let me explain it to you step by step; first of all, there are many blue class working men, who are good men, and would treat you like a queen. He would not be intimidated that you may have more education or that you make more money, but they would support you and protect you. You seem to drawn into that mess of a man, with the tattoos, and motorcycle who was recently released from prison. As far as the rich man is concerned, they have a tendency to go more for the dipsy kind, of woman. They don't want you to be on the same level, so your actually between a rock and a hard place. Using these analogies does not generalize the rich or the middle class.

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I agree with KK. What' s up with that? No wonder you have problems meeting guys. Men are all the same across the board. They do not need you to pressure them into feeling like they are meeting some invisible standards set only by yourself. They can be professional and enjoy this aspect of their lives but do you think it fair to judge a guy as worthy or unworthy based on his career? Isn't that shallow? My advice? Improve yourself first. Learn to accept and not judge others Be friendly and open to people of all walk of life. Do not be a hypocrite - be true to yourself. There is nothing wrong with having high standards, just meet those standards first and then look for them in others. Develop a sense of humour. Enjoy folks for who they are - not for who you think they should be. Some of the finest people I know are Rastafarian's ( who smoke weed) occasionally. I would not trade them for all the corporate intellects in the world. Good luck

There are sites that cater to professionals who want to date, perhaps you should check those out. Another concern is, do not equate professional or financially stable men as "those are the only ones who are not involved or have troubles with the law'. Regardless if a guy makes 20k to 200k a year, no guy ( or gal for that matter ) is immune to the temptation to stray or be squeaky clean from trouble.

Below are two sites for busy professionals.

Lawd, Lawd... You are not feminine enough. Professional men like feminine women who know how to make a man feel like a man. They don't like aggressive abrasive so-called strong women. A good head game goes a long way too!

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> The Right Reverend Dr. Thurgood Goodlove

the Savedest man in the history of the Republican party

Host of the web show "Good Good Advice"

Typically low/no income guys, trouble with the law, etc. /losers do not go after professional, financially and emotionally balanced, and intelligent women. So you must be doing something to attract them.

You are looking in the wrong places. First of all avoid the online thing since people can lie and make things up. Start going to places like after work-pub/restaurants. Like sports bar type of places that aren't raunchy, you know the nice ones. Go around 5-6 pm. This is where many professional, single men go after work to hang out. Some of them like to get a drink before they go home or grab a bite to eat. It's all about going to the right places.

1. Lose weight but don't talk about it. Make it look easy, like you don't even think about it.

2. Don't talk about lower class stuff (like a trip to the dog race track with the girls). Focus on art, light politics, your feelings.

3. Have opinions and interests. When there is a break in the conversation, say something. Ask questions... ask about his job, his interests, his opinion, his future.

4. Wear simple clothes which include tight jeans.

5. When a professional, smart, well off guy with a balding head and goofy jokes starts to hit on you at a cocktail party, be nice to him, cause that's your guy.