Joint custody/ Visitation advice?

first and foremost... having joint custody does not mean you can't make decisions on your own about certain things. Not if you are the one with the custodial rights. There is one parent who is non-custodial and one who is custodial... the one with the custodial rights is the one who can make the small decisions. Like what school the child attends, what doctors they see and so forth.

Now... I think you need a childrens in the middle class really badly. All you talk about is what you want and not what is best for the child. The father should have more than just visitation rights and should be in that childs life on a full time basis. He is right to not settle with you. If he is a fit parent, there is no reason a judge won't grant him joint custody. Not likely you will win here. And with your actions and attitude, a judge may not feel you are fit to do what is in the best interest of the child instead of what you want most. You really need to change gears here. Know how many women would LOVE it if their baby's father were in the picture?

Since he has never interfered before with the choices you are making, why do you believe that would change with joint custody? I shared joint custody with my ex, who was a horrible and abusive man who still won joint custody, and yet I still made all the decisions because I was the custodial parent.

Start doing research on what is best for a child. You'll find that psychologically, joint custody is best of the child. Start putting the child first in this situation. Otherwise he could take away custody completely on the grounds that you do not have the childs best interest at heart like he does. And a judge will listen to that! Seen many a women lose the custodial rights over things like this. Don't be one of them.

First off, if you have bad things against him, you need to speak up in court about them--him calling once he realizes whats against him and buttering you up is a ploy--if you don't say those bad things, that helps his case. But if you do, it will not. Therefore, he was doing damage control knowing what you have against him. Stay with it. Also, custody and visitation are two different things--if you have primary custody, then you make the day-to-day decisions. Your best bet is to continue in court fighting for full custody and only visitation on his behalf, and a judge can take your information and go from there.

If your child's father is fit, don't keep him from her life. If you're saying that the two of YOU are getting back together, frankly that should have nothing to do with visitation, custody and child support. Especially if he could be doing you to avoid them. Just proceed. Protect yourself and her in court. If you want to let him back in when he's manipulating you to avoid court, be smarter than that. You should be countering for child support. You are a single mom. Get a backbone.

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He is the child's father - he is entitled to joint legal custody. Physical custody is not the same.

Physical custody generally entails one parent having primary physical custody and the other having parenting time, or visitation.

Do not try to keep the child from her father unless he is a threat to her health and well-being. That means that he neglects her and puts her in physical danger, not that he puts mismatched socks on her and lets her eat peanut butter for breakfast.

And this:

"later on in life when I want to change my daughter from one school to the other or if I want to move from one state to state."

is ridiculous. It's his daughter too.

Want, want want, want??? What does the child NEED? figure that out and stick to the plan.