Sure. Its wrong. But why not let it continue?

Well, I guess the question would be are you and your wife still intimate? Not that it matters I guess, but if there is no chance of you getting back together, then why would you not continue the emails? Like you said you have not met and there is no guarantee that it will progress to something more then there really is no harm in it...you are leaning on each other for moral support since you are both experiencing similar situations...if anything you have made a new friend and we can all use a friend...I know a couple on the throes of divorce who sleep in separate rooms and continue on with their lives as if they are roommates because they cannot afford to live on their own at the moment, and although I would feel awkward in that situation, if it works for them it works for them. As far as the dating goes, I don't know if they bring dates home, that would be really weird, but I do know that she is dating someone else, that being said...your email friend is a friend, why stop this friendship when you are not hurting anyone, if the marriage is over, it's over...make new friends...

I guess I don't understand what the big deal is.

If you are certain that you want to divorce, then separate from your wife, move out, and date whoever you want to date. Or, if you are in some kind of subsidized housing, where you need to be married to stay there, be honest with your wife about what is happening and then suggest staying in the house together until the time period is up. Although the second option probably would not be much fun. Still, I know plenty of divorced people and there is always a solution for housing. Stay with a friend, share the house, take turns over the next two years at renting a room somewhere.

What I'm saying is that if you see no future for your marriage, then you need to tell your wife that so she can start making plans for her future. I don't know your age or her age, but if she wants kids with someone else, then waiting two more years might make that impossible. Also, she should start preparing herself financially for this divorce. If you're saying that you CAN'T tell your wife you want this divorce, then that sounds very shady to me. I see no decent reason why you can't simply be honest with her.

As long as you're married, there is no excuse for cheating. If you are choosing to stay in a dysfunctional marriage for financial considerations, that's up to you, but don't use that to justify cheating. Even if your wife has already cheated on you, that is still no reason to sink to her level. If you were miserable enough in your present situation, you'd say the hell with "legal, housing and financial thresholds" being reached. You'd leave this minute so you could be free to pursue a better relationship with someone you're better suited to.

Is your wife aware that you have zero desire to work the marriage out?

Are you willing to tell her about your email correspondence?

Are you or have you told her about this woman?

Please note I am in no way at all judging you. I hear what you are saying, "that you feel it is over" etc...

Are you one hundred percent sure you have zero desire to be with your wife?

Do you still love your wife?

Think these questions through. I hope you get your life settled, I know it is hard. Marriage is a tough one, but too the battles you win no doubt make it stronger.

I am sorry for your pain. I know it well.

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You are not emotionally there, so why try to be? It'll just be frustrating. Continue with your emailing. But though you should "legally" separate so that your wife cannot use this as ammunition. Honestly, what is the point in hanging back when you are seeking that help outside of yourself. Its healthy. You are relating with someone and connecting. I say go for it!

specific reasons: you could get into legal trouble (adultery). i doubt that would help the process of divorcing, it sounds like it's going pretty slowly as it is. also - you don't know the specifics of the woman's relationship troubles (?), and going behind her husband's back might end badly.

and then, of course, the moralistic reasons that i'm guessing you've already heard.

Looks like you're on a one way street to getting walked on for the rest of your life.

Enjoy.

if your wife wants to divorce eventually as well then do what you guys want to do, meet whoever you want to meet