Am I being selfish for not serving foods I'm allergic to to my guests?

Yes

You are not selfish. Any one who expects you to bring wheat into your kitchen is being selfish. Have you tried local bakeries or health food stores to see if there is bread without wheat? If you want to bake bread try this recipe.

Family style spoon bread

1 cup white corn meal

1 teaspoon salt

1tablespoon shortening

2 cups boiling water

1 cup milk

2 eggs, separated

combine cornmeal, salt and shortening.add boiling water. Mix well, let cool. Add milk and beaten egg yolks. Fold in stiffly beaten egg whites, Pour into greased 1 1/2 quart baking dish. Bake in preheated 400 degree oven for 30 or 40 minutes Yield 6 to 8 servings.

Absolutely not! You are the hostess, you are inviting others into your home, and preparing food for them.

You have gone to considerable trouble to consider this situation, and come on here to ask advice. You are being extremely considerate!

Prepare foods that you think your guests will enjoy, but in accordance with your own restrictions.

You are surely right when you say people can go without bread (etc.)! You can make perfectly yummy food, which everyone will like, and still observe your own restrictions. A little research on your part should yield some great recipes.

Best of luck!

Absolutely not! You are in NO way being selfish to your guests by doing this, I know that many wheat allergies are very serious and you are exactly right when you presume that it may end up in your food and that you'll be sick. Always Always put your own self being in front. Besides, there are SO MANY different foods!! I'm absolutely sure that you're guests will not miss some wheat here or there. You can also substitute for it in the recipes. Besides, if you're the one hosting the dinner, your guests should be grateful to you, it would be VERY rude on their part if they felt you were being selfish. Don't worry about it. :) hope this helped

Why do you have to cook the bread or any wheat products for that matter just buy it already done. Im not sure why you still have a reaction if all the utensils are washed properly. Are you that sensitive.

No don't be intimidated by others. I can't imagine why your father would insist that you serve something you are that allergic to. Anybody who dpoesn't like it can host the meal next year. You are definitely not being selfish. You are doing it to keep from getting sick not because you don't want to serve a traditional dinner.Stick to your guns and don't be intimidated.

Not all stuffings have to be made from bread crumbs. The one below uses rice and there are others that use cornbread.

If you are short on plates and cutlery you can rent then from a party? wedding planning store. I rent when I have a big shower and people do it all the time for weddings. The bonus is that they don't even want you to wash them. You put the stuff in the big plastic bag they came in and take them back. They have big dishwashers that wash and sterilize the dishes and cutlery and then they go in bags for the next customer.

Rice Stuffing with Bacon and Apple

This is a traditional recipe from the American Deep South combining bacon, apple, celery, onion and dried fruit with a mixture of white rice and wild rice, served as an alternative to cornbread stuffing with the Thanksgiving turkey.

3½ cups (28 oz / 850 ml) of water

1½ cups (12 oz / 360 ml) of chicken or turkey stock

1 cup (6 oz / 150 g) of wild rice, uncooked

6 oz (150g) bacon

2 medium onions (12 oz / 350 g), peeled & diced

3 stalks of celery, diced

1 tbsp (15 ml) of water

1 cup (6 oz / 150 g) of long-grain white rice, uncooked

1½ cups (8 oz / 220 g) currants

½ cup (3 oz / 90 g) of dried sour cherries

½ cup (3 oz / 90 g) of dried cranberries

1 tbsp (15 g) of dried apricots, chopped

1 medium apple, (6 oz / 150 g), cored and diced but not peeled

4 tbsp (60 g) of flat-leaf parsley, chopped or 4 tsp of dried parsley

6 tbsp (90 g) of dried mixed herbs

Salt & black pepper to taste

Add 1½ cups (360 ml) of the water and the chicken stock to a saucepan and bring to a boil over a medium heat.

Stir in the wild rice, return to a boil then reduce to a simmer, cover and cook for about 40 minutes, or until tender.

In the meantime, fry the bacon over a medium heat in a deep frying pan or skillet until evenly browned all over.

Remove the bacon from the pan, crumble and set aside.

Add the onions and celery to the bacon fat remaining in the pan and fry with 1 tbsp (15 ml) of water for about 20 minutes, or until very soft.

Stir the remaining water, white rice, currants, cherries, cranberries, apricots and apples into the wild rice mix. Bring to a boil, reduce to a simmer, cover and continue cooking for 20 minutes, or until the rice is tender.

When done, turn the rice mixture into a large bowl and stir in the crumbled bacon and the onion mixture.

Season with the parsley and mixed herbs and add salt & pepper to taste.

The stuffing can be served immediately or it can be allowed to cool and then combined with 2 beaten eggs and used to stuff the turkey before roasting.

I would make every effort to accomodate my guests with every indulgence they expect this to be a

celebration meal with all the trimmings and in my house bread at every meal is the norm so yes it s

selfish of you to not make a effort to buy and serve just dont partake of those items on your plate

pans or oven the long drawn out excuse is a guilt trip to not involve you are you cooking for only your tastes or does dad and the boyfrieds have to suffer gravy and cranverry with no dressing

savory and salty as gravy iis without some bread to daub up the delishious meal your preparing.

My table has three types of potatoe dishes frys for the kids crisped with peanut oil swwet potatoebroiled with brown sugar and marshmellows and apple bacon smoked and crumbed

broiled with buttery crust and last of all mashed creamy white pepper potatoes and maccarooni

cheese with maccarooni salad with onions and olives and boiled eggs deviled eggs topped with a dab of caviar and paprika enjoy have dun thou.

I don't think you are being selfish and I bet most of your family will not make a big deal about it. I would make sure they know up front there will be no bread so they can get used to the idea before their arrival. The lack of bread will be noticed so no since prolonging the agony of worrying over it. If they don't like it then they don't have to come. Good luck and Happy Holidays.

No you aren't. Your dad is being selfish for expecting you to risk getting sick. They can go without wheat for those couple of meals and what you're cooking sounds great. They should all be thankful you're cooking for them at all.

Maybe ask someone else to make the stuffing and bring the rolls.