My boyfriend still talks to his ex-wife... advice please?

Your in your mid twenties now it looks like. You need to make good Solid decisions now about your future. He must, I can't emphasis that enough - HE MUST come to his own decision to break it off with the ex. You can't make him. The best thing you can do is break away - and I mean totally break away from him. Get on with your life stop being a roller coaster with him in life. You have to mean business with him and not be wishy washy with how you treat this situation.

I do see him going back to you now but eventually he will veer off again causing you more emotional turmoil so put a stop to this now.

You deserve much better in life. Don't you agree?

Good luck to you.

I'm a cut to the chase kind of person; right enough of the time not to stop but I miss it on occasion. Here's my take: He's still playing the field especially with her. I seriously doubt that was simply the first time she'd had contact with him since you two got back together. Right now he's got two women on the string and that's not going to change unless you make it change. If and when that happens he'll get in touch with one of those other girl friends of his and just keep the twosome thing going only with different players.

Sorry, and good luck

If this is a make or break situation, then I wouldn't bother trying to make the relationship work. You cannot have a successful relationship without trust and it doesn't seem like you trust him. I don't know what it's like to have an ex spouse but I would probably keep in touch on some level. Texting all the time seems a bit extreme though.

You never stop loving you ex, but here is the thing when you have moved on and another love arises in your life you cut off all ties with any past lovers. Child support, alimony, pending legal stuff might keep the avenues of communication open for a short while, but my opinion is that past exes should be cut off, period. If he loves you he will do anything for you. To close the door on former lovers honors the present love for future lovers.

Personaly i would text her myself and ask her why did u guys even get divorced if u still care for him. Would u want his ex to text him all the time or would u think of it as being annoying like me. Its over so go find someone else to text because i dont care for it or i will leave him and u can have him. Period

LOOK IF YOU DON'T HAVE TRUST, THEN YOU HAVE NOTHING. DATING IS JUST THAT DATING. NO REAL COMMITMENT LIKE MARRIAGE. SO UNLESS YOU ARE MARRIED, YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO SAY WHO HE CAN AND CANNOT SPEAK TO OR HAVE CONTACT WITH. BEFORE GETTING BACK INTO THE RELATIONSHIP, THE FIRST THING YOU SHOULD HAVE DOME WAS FOR BOTH OF YOU TO LIST YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF THE RELATIONSHIP. IT SEEMS LIKE YOU TWO HAVE A ROLLER COASTER EXISTENCE AND IF SO YOU HAVE BIGGER PROBLEMS. THE ONE THING A MAN CAN'T STAND IS A JEALOUS WOMAN. SO IT SEEMS LIKE THE TWO OF YU NEED TO HAVE A SERIOUS CONVERSATION ABOUT WHERE YOU WANT TO GO FROM HERE. BEST WISHES.

It's not good. Break up with him. They will back in each other's arms in no time. Just walk away now.

Him being in a relationship probably makes him even more appealing to her. They need to quit playing, they know they still want to be together.

I say, RUN!

Its been proven that this man cannot be trusted. You should find yourself another man and go on with your life. This time when you break up, cut all ties with him. May be he has been texting you when he was with his girlfriend, and that's why he had trouble keeping the relationship.

End the relationship - he's not over her and she will continue to be in the picture until he puts a end to things once and for all. I would look for someone that it ready to give 100% of himself to you and the relationship - he isn't doing that.

you need to speak to him and tell him your concerns. i have to be honest and say he may still have issues but from what you say it has more to do with the break up than her herself. explain to him its not that you want to nag but you dont like him being in contact with her. you on the other hand have to realise if he did not want to be with you he wouldnt be. this can be sorted you both have to work on you two and not either of the exes they are not part of the relationship now.