He works and I stay at home...?

Does he want a maid or a partner? I've worked a lot of part time jobs over the years but mostly been a stay at home mom. I do pick up after him sometimes, but not always. He loves to cook and makes a mess that I refuse to clean up after him. I would rather cook myself than go in and clean someone else's mess and he knows that. He sometimes leaves clothes around the living room, so I pile them on the stairs until he has a chance to get them upstairs. If he expected me to be his mommy instead of the wife, we'd have been divorced a long time ago.

On the other hand, you don't have kids. What do you do all day? Maybe he sees that you really don't do anything as far as hobbies or any commitments and feels it's his right. Have you Talked to him about it? Maybe you could find a part time job and he'd be more willing to help out.

We have 2 kids and I am a stay at home mom and I can see where you are coming from. My husband isn't a slob, but there are a lot of times where I sit back and wonder why he can't rinse off his dishes when he is finished with them or clean out the sink after he shaves. there are a lot of little things that add up fast when you are in charge of ALL the housework.

make sure you talk to him. I let my frustration over it bottle up until it turned into an argument and it would have been so much easier to just say "hey, from time to time I would like a break too" I think if you explain how you feel to him he would be willing to at least listen and maybe you two can come to some kind of agreement.

My mom stayed home till I was in school, and my brother was 3. Then she went to work for a few years. Then my dad stayed home with us for a few years...they took turns till we hit teen years. Then they both worked until my dad got his disability. I've been an at home mom from day one. Our kids are 4, 1, and 2 months old. My husband will likely spend a couple years home with them after I go through some schooling and am stable on a job. We will do like my parents, try to split up similar time home. Then ideally be working our own hours as our own bosses, once all 3 kids are in school. (that's the 5 year plan anyways lol...we'll see what happens.)

Ask him to get you a maid because you aren't his maid !! My mom cleans the house too sometimes but my dad, he works from 7 am till 9 pm, whenever he gets back home, he makes the dinner and do the dishes and tell my mom to have a rest !! he got her a maid too. My mom had a job before but she is just staying home now. It's normal that girls are more familiar with house keeping but he doesn't appreciate what you are doing and he doesn't even put his clothes in the right place then he should learn some manners. You should talk to him about it, if he has a good job then ask for a main who can help you to clean the house in 3 days every week for example. If he doesn't understand then you should whether accept his negative things which could be much less than his postive or just leave him. It's good if he takes you out to a dinner at least every weekend, if he doesn't then you really need to talk to him.

Good luck =)

What are you complaining about? You said you don't even have children yet so I don't really get what your problem is. I'm guessing he spends maybe 9 hours a day, working. I'm a stay at home mum. My son is 15 months old and even if I haven't cleaned for a few days the most time it ever takes me to clean the house from top to bottom is 3 hours. If you stay on top of it, you shouldn't be having to work for anything more then an hour, maybe two, each day.

But if you really have issues with it talk to him about it. Maybe you could get him to take care of the more manly stuff eg yard work. Mowing the lawns, taking out the garbage. etc

i would give anything to stay home and clean all day! but that's just me. when i first moved in with my bf, it was a disaster. beyond that actually!! one day i was home and totally cleaned the whole apartment, from top to bottom, hard core deep cleaning. now when theres dishes i just do them, i cook, do laundry all that stuff. and everyday I pick one thing to major clean whether it's the shower, fridge stove, whatever to keep on top of the big stuff. take a full day and completely clean. then the rest is just picking up. that's what works for me. i practically follow my boyfriend around when it comes to dirty clothes and dishes.!

You're not his mother. Why should you pick up after him like you are?

His mother, the stupid woman, did not discipline her children to be tidy. Her fault. Her claim that they are all slobs is merely a reflection of her poor parental discipline.

Tell your husband that you are not his mother, but if he wants you to be his mother, you will be that way - so no sex.

If he doesn't clean up his act a bit - simply tidying up his clothes and things would be fine - then stop cooking for him. In fact, I would suggest looking for another place to live.

And if I were you, I would start looking for a job now, because it sounds like you don't have any way of earning your own money. It's not good to be so dependent on someone who is clearly taking advantage of you.

Get a job to pay for a maid if you don't want to do the housework, a guy/ girl that works all day doesn't want to have to come home to more work, nor should they have too.