Why not fix yourself, why not look at yourself, if you are having relationship problems?

I think you have oversimplified most marital issues. Sure, there are somethings where one person in the relationship can be the solution but in most cases it will take effort and willingness from both.

All the guys and girls on here who talk about not getting enough sex from their spouses... Let's say that 50% of those who say, "I've tried everything" have really tried everything. Romance, house cleaning, selfless giving, lingerie, fantasy fulfillment and the other person simply has no desire to try... what then?

I chose that example because it is such a common theme on here... but even your examples can't be fixed by one person alone.

"Fix what it is that she is nagging about, problem solved." - Okay, so he does that. He starts doing chores in a timely manner and correctly. Some women (and men) will continue to find things to b*tch about, even if you are doing everything right, doing everything you can to please them.

Sure you can look within yourself and figure out how you can be a catalyst to fixing a problem and you can get the ball rolling in the right direction. Unfortunately, most issues will require your spouse to help keep the ball rolling and not all spouses are willing to put in the time and effort to do so.

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Fix: A lot of people don't know how to positively fix relationship problems. Bad parenting and or very little morals/values are the ones to blame here.

Get out: When you live with someone for years its hard to just get out. Especially if the women doesn't have a steady source of income coming in.

The number one rule when trying to fix any relationship problem: You may criticize each others ideas BUT NOT EACH OTHER!

Looking at your questions, people can do that. But most can't because there's something deep in their hearts that they can't let their spouses go no matter how horrible their spouses treat them. Letting go in a relationship, especially one where you stayed with your spouse for so many years, is hard. It's not easy for everyone. Both have faults and they should work together to try and figure it out. Not everyone has solutions to their relationship. You don't walk into a relationship knowing EVERYTHING about a person, you learn about them more as you go on with them. If you have infinite solutions for every problem then good for you but would that be a very good relationship? You can't communicate with your bf or gf if you have an answer to everything. You both have to work it out. Walk in someone else's shoes for a while. =)

You're right, there are two sides but try explaining that to the lady who's raising two tiny children while her husband prefers to go out drinking or spend hours on the internet gaming, chatting, etc.

Or the wife who's husband hits her and has threatened her if she leaves?

Or the husband who's wife decides she married too young and wants to party 3 days a week leaving him home with the kids?

There are countless helpless situations out there. So sometimes people are neither the problem or the solution, they are just stuck.

You are right, we should look within. But has it occurred to you, we have looked at ourselves and we turn to our spouses to work on things. I suppose we are looking for some kind of resolve to the issue at hand before giving up. I suppose we do try in vain to work things out. No one really wants to get a divorce. Sometimes it is like admitting failure.

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You didn't become a top contributor by bitching about how other people's issues are annoying you, now did you?