Can there be any hope at all for my marriage or me and my life?

Man I agree with all these guys. THIS WOMAN HAS PLAYED YOU OFF A BREAK. I know it's hard and I know you are hurting but it's time you manned up! Get onto her ex's I'm sure they will be more than willing to appear as witness's for your defense. For goodness sake don't even consider going back with her under any circumstances, she just took you for everything you got. She is evil and you may have loved her more than anyone else in your life but you were loving a cold, calculating bi-yatch. Oh buddy she screwed you good and will screw others if you let her get away with this. you may have loved her, but she sure as hell don't love you. You want to wish her a happy birthday? No, no, and no! Get your self together, get a good councilor, get a good lawyer, document everything and hunker down for a good fight, that's the best birthday present you can give this maggot, show her she picked the wrong one this time!

If what you say is true you need a very good lawyer. Tell them everything and I mean everything. I would type it up and take a copy so that you make sure the attorney has all the facts. If you can get her past relationships to make a statement that this is her M.O. then that will be helpful in court. You have been duped and you should stop having any feelings for her. Remember that is what is allowing her more ammunition against you. Back off, and stay away and get a good private investigator and an attorney that you trust and let them do the leg work for you.

Sadly this may take some time, she is out to ruin you and is doing a good job of it. Don't go around her and give her anything else to use against you. As for her calling your work etc, that is slander and is actionable.

wow, thats a sad thing giong on. the worst thing you can do is let her know it bothers you. WORST thing. if she is trying to hurt you, the one thing that is going to keep her going is knowing it bothers you. the MIN you show her you dont care, i guarantee it will stop. so what you need to do is shake the bs off, and be a man. go out, get a hair cut, find some friends to hobby with (sports or whatnot) and ignore whats going on. i KNOW its hard and hopefully you wont get in trouble if you really didn't do it. if you can find out info on her before the trial, id do what you can. get statement from the guys if you can or look in her past to see if you can find something on paper against her. have other people get any info off her FB if you can so you dont get in trouble for stalking or anything. there isn't anything saying friends cant contact her!! the biggest thing is to keep occupied. you are depressed and feeling alone and if you aren't working then i'm assuming all you are doing is sitting and wondering "why" KEEP BUSY..its the BEST advice i can give you. i've been there done that..and i've done this to my (now ex) husband. but we have talked thru it and we are actually good friends now so i have a little more knowledge of both sides. immaturity, selfishness, etc.thats what causes these things. if you lose everything...as much as its going to suck, move on. being sad and upset and pondering it all is only going to make the inevitable worse. everything is going to happen no matter what, if you let it get to you, its going to make the future *(which IS going to happen) worse...understand!! :o)

best thing you can do now is keep busy and find someone to talk to. maybe join an online support group so you have some people to talk to live....GL!

There is always hope, don't do anything stupid.

Get an attorney, you will need one, even if you two get back together somtimes abuse charges can not be dropped depending on the state.

I think you are feeling sorry for your self ( just acknowledge that is what it is)

You may be missing the idea of the relationship more than the actual relationship.

Life is too short to spend it with someone who can not give you mutual respect.

Quit putting the value of your self worth on the acknowledgement from someone else.

This is what "happened", she saw it and .yes, used it to get what she wanted.

With little or no regard for your needs. So if your waiting for her to meet your needs don't hold your breath. Quit wearing your heart on your sleeve and do something for yourself.

WOW! I'm glad that you were able to vent and get that all out of your chest. I know that what I'm going to say is going to hurt, but it's merely my opinion-I'm not a professional.

It sounds to me that she never loved you. She does not respect you or see you as a part of her. You sound like a very compassionate man and I don't think that she deserves you. Sadly enough, her allegations will not help you in a divorce, but that's what you should be thinking of. I am a woman of God, and divorce should be the last resort, in your case, I believe that is the wiser decision.

I actually met my husband online and married him with in the year; I thank God that we recently celebrated our 11th year together. It has not been an easy road, but love does help the ride.

she is one of those people who have to have drama in their lives, they can make a scene out of nothing. they twist everything to make someone elses fault

i dont understand how you can possibly want her back.

i feel sorry that she is putting you through all this, and i hope it works out well for you. but stop being the victim and fight back.

shes a nut case and always will be. You deserve better.

Wow. I only had to read just the first part of this and I figured out that she's a psycho. get rid of her. She's showing her true colors and she knows how to play the game. tell every1 you know what's going on. you wont feel so isolated. trust me.

You are in an abusive relationship and need to get out of it. She is poison to you. You need to be very far away from her. You need to prove your innocence and get her out of your home. You need to prove that she has done this before and will do it again. You were set up. She is a con artist.

You need to find her ex's and get them to help you put her away.

Then you need to move on.

get her out of your life dude. you can do better and you should. your in love with someone that she is not, she faked you out for whatever reason, maybe just to be a b*tch.

nice book

what can anybody here do?

if you think fraud

get an attorney