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I get stressed every Xmas due to the inability to be 2 places at once so both in-laws & my own don't offend.?
...when I'm not present on Xmas day for one of them. I've already tried splitting the day up between them..but one of them always want the bulk of the day and takes issue. The we tried alternating years...but then one of them decided one year they didn't like that arrangement. I'm ready to tell BOTH of them this year to have a nice big slice of "go f*** yourself" and stay home with my wife this year...without the grief.
Anyone here ever been there??...and if you ever managed to resolve the problem permanently so EVERY one was happy--HOW did you do it???
Thanks.
Blorf...because one of them refuses to do that. As you can see, reason flies out the window during the holidays around here.
4 Answers
- Lynn VLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
Yikes - how does such a wonderful holiday manage to turn your parents and in-laws in to such drags? Nothing like a big helping of selfishness along with the cranberry sauce. We did the f-off thing one year, and were very clear why we were doing it - sick of their demanding crap was the phrase we both used on our respective parents. It didn't help. The next year it was back to the same ole thing. We finally decided that we are also adults, and made the effort to comport ourselves as such. They let us know when stuff was happening, and we said we'd try to make it. And no amount of snotty comments or guilt made us stray from the course. When they tried, we shrugged, and said "oh well" in a very bored tone. Their rudeness lost the power to distract us from the fun, and we were much calmer. You can choose not to give them the power, or you and wifey can make yourselves crazy and miserable. I choose cranberry sauce over guilt and ham every chance I get:)
- DovahkiinLv 71 decade ago
Staying home and making your own family traditions is much more relaxing, enjoyable and fun. You get to a point in life where you just get tired of all the unreasonable, demanding, selfish people.
- 1 decade ago
I think that dumb of them to do that. You're trying to enjoy your holiday too. Maybe you can go to one of there houses on Christmas Eve then spend Christmas with the other family. Or just go back to your old arrangement and tell them that that's what you like and if they don't like it you don't have to spend Christmad with them.
