what is a good question to ask your spouse when trying to make marriage work?

Hey honey have you heard of that whipped cream with alcohol in it? Wanna try it out?

Well it depends on what kind of problems you guys are having. If you feel you need to reconnect with your partner, try taking a vacation or spending time together, just the 2 of you. It is very important for couples to focus on their relationship. Also, communication is key!! You should be able to tell your partner everything. If something is bothering you, speak from your heart and let him know. Be truthful and don't hold back. Sometimes if you hold your feelings back, you could become resentful to your partner and that is not fair. Having good, open communication in a relationship is important.

If my marriage was in trouble, I would wonder...

Are you still in love with me?

Do you want our marriage to work as much as when we first married?

Are you faithful?

Do you mean like that, or questions to spark conversation? If the latter, redenvelope.com has this cool set of cards called "Conversation Starters for Couples." I am thinking about getting a set because my husband and I loved the question game when we were dating. Also, if you want to make your marriage and love stronger, you should get a copy of "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, seriously!

There is a ton of material out there, go to any book store and look at the shelves of self help books. Real therapy is not a dys job tho and an objective referee is almost always necessary. If I was going to ask my spouse anything I would ask this. "What do you need (not want) from me and how would you feel if you got it?" If he is willing to get into that discussion then you have a chance.

Start off with, "Why in the hell did I marry you in the first place." lol

Sorry, I just had to get that in - the devil made me do it.

My question - What do you think about taking a week with each of us making a list of what we are willing to do and what we expect from the other then share our lists after the week is up? What do you think of that idea?

People need to sit down calmly and talk like adults, not a couple of pissed off teenagers.

Good luck

It depends on what your values are and his. You should know this. So they next questions could be discussing the problem. Is it communication, infidelity, money, alcohol and drugs, abuse? Finally should make a plan on your goals and dreams and do it. If he doesn't support you or want to go then it could be a sign you don't want to make it work.

Do you still love me, and are you faithful. Those would be my major ones. If the answer is yes to both I think it is possible to work out.

Do you have any idea how much a divorce is going to cost you ?

Are you on board because if your not I am ready to stop the boat...