My boyfriend made a comment about my small boobs?

He was just making a joke, don't look into it.

My bf has said small remarks about my small breast and it HURT! I almost broke up with him because I get so sensitive ...:

Guys can be such douches, he has a small pencil dick and I never said anything bout it but I guess that's gonna change.. HA!

Well not everyone can have big boobs I'm 13 and my bra size is 34C I know pretty big I always have boys staring at them and always trying to touche and never look me in the eyes I always wanted a boy that will be with me for me not for my big boobs and I always wanted to have small or medium size boobs but its tough luck in it?! Oh well but at least he's ur ex ,forget about him coz he's the only one that mentioned it and had a problem with them the other ones didn't so that's good beside I think he knew you would get hurt or was worried about ur boobs being small whiles being with him and he just decided to annoy you with saying stuff like that..don't worry u will find a guy that loves u no matter what wish u all the best:)

I personally think the comment about wanting to become a plastic surgeon and "give you new boobs" was far worse. If he has any knowledge of that stuff he would know how much physical and mental pain it causes.

I broadly agree with Cecilia - except I am not sure whether you should talk directly about past insecurities. I think a relationship works better if there is an element of the guy having to please the woman and make feel good. So just show him that he is not accomplishing that in such ways.

It is terrible unmanliness on his part that should have to ask strangers for advice against him. I should be the other way round, that he should make you feel so good you wouldn't care what any of us thought, really.

But these things are hard to discuss - perhaps you could take offset in the plastic thing and explain to him that these things are traumatic for the woman, because she might have had some insecurities about e.g. an unusual small breast size, and that getting implants squeezed in there would make that notion permanent, and she would always feel inferior whenever she looked at the result - that only remotely resembled real breasts (with more of the rounded artificial stuff than her own breast mass, no way it would look real).

You could also ask him if he really thinks that would be good for anybody. But taking up a more "hypothetical" angle, then you have some plausible deniability and you haven't really made yourself too vulnerable. Yet unless he is completely dumb, he would get your point.

But just on my own account, I might add that it is so beautiful that you yourself have accepted. If he really is ruining that, you may want to pause and consider the whole situation. If a guy already starts dreaming about something else, then it surely is a sign that the relationship is not all perfect. And it may be hard for you too - even if you hold your own - to be married to someone who makes big money by preying on other girls' insecurities about these things and ruins their lives.

Surely your breasts deserve to be liked unreservedly - and that is part of perfect relationship, whether they be huge or micro ;o)

It might be some misunderstanding - but I think you are right to stop and wonder what it means. Just promise me you won't start feeling bad about your breasts again, whatever happens. People do become an item and spilt up again if it turns out it didn't work properly. That happens to most people of any breast size. So that is not the issue at all.

I think you have done everything right - and I think a lot of guys would appreciate an attitude like yours. So it is unfair if he doesn't and still gets you, so to speak ;o)

All the best to you. And never consider implants in your little beautiful breasts - it is awful, especially on a girl like you. The crucial thing if the lady's breasts are unusually tiny or "flat" is to get her herself to accept - and you have done that. Then it ought to be all lovely and even extra significant from there on. If he doesn't appreciate that, he is living in a dream world of his own - or is very immature somehow.

You may want to make sure that it is not all just some misunderstanding (could easily happen because of your past insecurity, like you say). But you may want to leave the next step to him - to make you feel good again. That is how he can become a real man.

But I think the "hypothetic" angle is good if you want to bring it up. That way you don't give anything away - and he gets an opportunity to say something more sensible if he wants to ;o)

Just never feel sad about your breasts again - like Cecilia was saying, old insecurity may still hover in the background, but having accepted you are really safe from it. It may be there somewhere, but it can't ever really reach you again. So no need to start giving such feelings to much attention again - that's what they thrive on, and no need for that. You have done so good - and these things really mean something.

Hello! Good for you for coming to terms with your body. It's hard to overcome any self-esteem issues, but sometimes little hints of insecurities pop up. When a loved one brings up a past insecurity, it may be especially disturbing. Those who admire us, their opinions end up weighing heavily on us. We want them to like us, love us. Even if they're joking, anything like this can be quite stressful.

The good news is that even though it hurt, it can be overcome. Your boyfriend seems like a reasonable person. Some people don't realize the weight that they hold over others. They don't know when something offends someone. They need to be told, not in an accusing way, but just in an honest fashion. They can then be more sensitive to you in the future. You have the right idea that this needs to be brought up!

I didn't know how to tell my boyfriend that he had offended me. He didn't realize that he did it- it was an off-hand comment, a quick word and that's all. He didn't mean anything by it. I told him that it bothered me, and he apologized profusely, telling me that if anything ever bothers me I need to tell him, so that it doesn't happen again.

My advice to you is to just tell him that something is bothering you that you want to talk to him about. Tell him about your past insecurity with your breasts, and that it offended you when he made a comment about them.

its probably his way of joking around. a lot of guys joke that way. if ur happy in every aspect u need to be happy in with him, so be it. personally, i love small boobs too and id probably make comments like that every once in a while...doesnt mean i dont love them. does he pay attention to them at all when u guys are doing u know what? theres ur sign.

You should make a small joke about something he might be insecure about and see how he likes it.

It was just an innocent joke...calm down. That means he's comforatable with you if he made a joke like that. Just relax

It was a joke, Jesus Christ woman! Calm down.