I'm 22 and I can't get a girlfriend, i don't know what the hell is wrong with me. I need some advice...?

Well I'm 20 and I never have a boyfriend. Time will tell when your going to find the right girl.. You have to go to place that is pleasant like the mall, park, or library. Please do not get someone at the club because people at the club are having fun and nothing serious. My advice is to find a girl somewhere nicer. For example library, park, shopping mall, or the beach (If you live near them).

A lot of people get anxious in large crowds, so you aren't alone. This is something you may wish to speak to someone about. But going to clubs is not the only way to meet potential partners (to be honest with you, I would avoid hooking up with people from nightclubs). You'll meet women in all walks of life, and there are plenty of women out there. Just give it time. You don't really sound ready for a relationship at the moment anyway. You need to focus on dealing with your own problems right now, such as: you're anxiety, depression, group of friend and generally your unhappiness with life. Not having a partner is not causing these things, and suddenly having one will not solve them either.

I hope this helps and good luck for the future.

Buddy there is nothing to be depress about.

Have you ever thought that you just haven't met anyone yet? If you can't seem to tick with any girls, maybe they aren't your type. Just give it some time. But I'm not saying wait your whole life. Don't be so shy around girls, confidence is what attracts them. There is no reason to be sad over your loneliness. Just be patient. It will be hard, but it will be worth it when you meet your special someone.

You don't have to be sad over what you don't have because you control it. Be glad what you do got. You control your happiness. You don't have to be sad because all your friends are getting a girlfriend and your left behind. It isn't a race. If you think it is, you'll just wind up miserable with someone you hate.

I hope that helped. I know what it is like to be lonely. Hell, I didn't get laid till i was 22.

My, you're blowing this way out of proportion! You're only 22; still young. You don't need to find the love of your life quite yet! It's understandable to be depressed about this sort of thing, and common. My suggestions are dating websites, meet people at work, or.....just let love come to you!!! My uncle was 40 before he married and has a strong stable family now. My other relatives, especially those who married young, are now divorced. So sometimes it's a good thing to wait. And don't feel bad because you only slept with one girl in your life. I would find it very sad and pathetic if you slept with MORE than one. You should only sleep with the woman you are positive is "the one" and only after you're married. Sex is a very personal thing and should only be shared with that special someone. And, to what you said up there ^^^ "but it's so hard for me at the moment because i'm not happy in life or with myself.", means you should probably be focusing on that before you find a girlfriend. If you don't sort out your personal issues first, such as depressing and self-confidence, then maintaining a strong, healthy relationship would be almost impossible. Hope this helps!

Lauren

Lets get back to basics here Jack.

First of all, why SHOULD you have a girlfriend? What's the purpose and end-game here?

Just because all your friends and classmates have them doesn't mean that you should have one, because that reasoning only makes sense if you are identical to them, which you are not.

There is a reason why you don't have a girl, and that is because you are different from them in some way. This is either of:

1. You are weaker than your friends, so girls are rejecting you in favour of them, or

2. You are different somehow, in a way that you don't currently understand.

I don't think it is 1. because you've posted your question on here, and the type of language you've used, and style, makes me think you are mentally strong. So it has to be 2.

Being gay is ONE possibility, but not all that likely.

More likely is that you inside yourself don't want to be tied down into a relationship, and there is an inner voice in you that is preventing yourself from being "yourself" when chatting to girls.

You need to sit down and find out what you really want to contribute to your life. When you do that, when you really answer the question about what Jack wants to give to the world before he'd dead, then you'll know that girls can wait their turn...

I know the feeling but the truth is, it's a cliche I know, things happen to you when you least expect them or in this case when you are not looking for them. Us girls can very easily pick up on when a guy is what people call (though harsh) 'desperate'. You can see it in their eyes and sense it in how they talk to you and it tends to push girls away. You need to stop being so eager and just relax and let life happen you to. You are only very young and have a lot ahead of you. Concentrate on the things you want to achieve in life, and love will happen to you, guaranteed. Women like men who are determined and have ambition, and if your only ambition is to get a girlfriend then when you find her you will have achieved your 'ultimate' goal and become less passionate, so it won't work anyway because you won't be the person you were (if that makes sense) Also, confidence really is key. You can't expect someone to have any confidence in you if you don't have any confidence in yourself. Confidence comes in many forms. You don't have to be the first on the dance floor or the first to approach a girl etc in club. You just have to be happy with yourself and what you have to offer. Happiness with oneself shows on the outside. When you are happy and confident in yourself, other people will feel happy and confident about you.

You say that you have only slept with one person at 22 . That's not sad. That's very respectable. It shows that you are not just willing to sleep around willy nilly because it means something to you, and many many girls will find that very attractive and have respect for you. They will also know that they mean something to you and your not just after sex, a rare trait for someone your age. Also, you can't say things like 'I am going to end up lonely', because if you start to believe that then you will. The power of positive thinking is very strong. I

The thing about the social life, only you can change that. Talk to people more, go out more, engage in conversation, join a club or group. Only you can make the difference there. And use it as practise for approaching people. If it goes wrong, who cares? You wont see those people again in your life and you can move on. No harm done. The same for dates. Don't get too hung up on what 'could' happen with a girl, just live in the moment and see what comes of it.

And, nothing at all is 'wrong' with you. You are perfectly normal. There are people all over the world in the same situation as you. But whatever you do, don't say in a mope and feel sorry for yourself. All those people who say ' oh, i will never find anyone' and don't go out into the world are silly, because while they are sat alone, they could be out there meeting eachother!

I hope this helps, so chin up, stay happy and ambitious, enjoy life and see what happens. You have all the time in the world.

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For God's sake stop feeling so sorry for yourself and start enjoying life. I can imagine that with your attitude you present an aura of misery to the girls that you meet and put them off.