My friend likes MY crush!?

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So I've had a crush on this guy for a little over year. I've never dated anyone, he's never dated anyone, but I've never asked him out or anything. He's nice to me, but I doubt he'd date me...maybe I'll ask him someday...

The problem is I have a friend Annie (we're not that close) who likes my crush now. She broke up with her boyfriend and everyone asks her who she would date if she could pick, and he's always on the top 3 boys on her list! I fear that this friend, because she is bold, might "beat me to him", so to speak. This pisses me off, even though I've had the chance and done nothing about this guy for the past year! 

I don't want to ask him out and then make her think I was just doing it to bug her, but if she ends up doing it, it will really annoy me. Hurt me, even though he was never mine.

What can I do? Should I gather the courage to ask him out or give him up to her? :/

Thanks in advance!

Jordan · Accepted Answer

First of all, the guy in this situation is not a passive bystander. If he likes Annie, he'll date her. If he doesn't, he won't.
I don't think you need to ask him out. But I would advise doing SOMETHING to show your interest so he knows you are an option. Flirt a little. If he likes you, and he feels like he has a chance with you, then he'll ask you out. 
But it's not all about what you and Annie do. He might prefer one of you to the other, and there's nothing either of you can do about that.

Ginger · Answer

You snooze, you lose.           Whether it's a seat in a public place or a guy.  I don't think by the sound of your letter that you have the courage to approach him now.  (That) girl has blown you and your confidence out of the water.  What I'm trying to say is, when you see something you want, go for it, because there will always be someone younger, stronger, prettier, healthier, richer and a lot of other things, than you just waiting to have you for lunch.   Not you personally,  I mean everyone.  The next time you find yourself in this situation (not approaching), I'll bet you do it differently.  Good luck â¥

Anonymous · Answer

Well I wouldn't straight up ask him out just because she likes him. I would just play it out. Start talking to him more and really get to know each other. Flirt a little bit not ALOT, you know? If he see's your a layed back person, awesome, sweet, funny, he WONT date the other girl. trustt me. She's probably going to rush things and flirt alot if she wants him immediately. Take YOUR time. Do NOT let him see that your jealous of the other girl (if you are.) He will think your cool for that :) A little while later after you have talked to him (days) start talking to him about your feelings.
Good Luck!! :)

rocker chick · Answer

ask him out first! If he says no, then at least you know he isn't into you and your friend can go for him and you shouldn't have any hard feelings, good luck!

I also read that in a study they found that a crush only lasts 4 months, after that its love. I don't know if its true, but I did read that some were.

? · Answer

e wikll date who he wants to his choice

Bri · Answer

Ask him out!!! Why not, if you don't you might regret it!!!

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