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LovingLife
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LovingLife asked in Society & CultureCultures & GroupsLesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender · 1 decade ago

Need some advice or whatever?

I am a female. I have always identified as straight, dated men (was even engaged to one up until we broke up recently) but for the past 6-7 months (maybe longer) I had had feelings for a woman. I have known her for 2 years and at first I thought she was nice (and pretty) but didn't think anything of it, then as I said, these past 6 or so months I have had feelings for her. Butterflies in the stomach whenever I see her, I get nervous when she talks to me etc just as I would if I had a crush on a guy.

I have never been with a woman before and don't know why I am feeling this way. I guess the heart want what it wants and love knows no gender.

What should I do? And am I a lesbian? I do have a few male friends but they're like brothers to me, I have no feelings towards them other than friendship.

Thanks.

Update:

I'm 28

Update 2:

And I'm not trying to rush anything, just trying to understand this.

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  • Deborah
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    Could be that you are bi rather than a lesbian. Or rather that maybe the break up was so tough that you really are turned off by guys right now. nothing wrong with that. before you label yourself and announce to the world that you have a preference nobody knew about I'd really sit back and do some serious soul searching. It could be that this person's presence is just really comforting right now and they feel safe. You can have a crush on some one of the same sex without being a lesbian ,gay or bisexual. It's good to have friends of both sexes and a girl can never have too many brothers.If you have always considered yourself straight then chances are that is what you are and you just find this person very comforting after a bad break up. I wouldn't say anything to her because it might make her feel uncomfortable. just take a lot of time to really examine your feelings and motives.when in doubt you can always do some counseling to help you sort things out.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you might be, but then again you might be bi.

    don't rush to label yourself :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Sounds like you're bi... cool down..... :)

    And how old are you?

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