Would you look at your wife differently...?

Some people can seperate their feelings from something that happened in the past like that. He might feel u look llike its not bothering u so it wont bother him. And ALOT of people say the past is the past forget about it. But if i was u i would get therapy anyway i didnt and boy did i pay for it in my marriage.

I can see why you'd have concern about this ... its unsettling to hear ... I think reaching out on here means you're a sweet guy whose just honestly confronting his feelings ... maybe you question if she can enjoy being intimate with you ... she can ... it's not the same thing ... and fyi the majority of women have either been molested, date raped, or raped ... and maybe more than once ... so bear that in mind ... I assure you this is probably just the first time a woman you love shared this with you but its not the first time you've been with a woman that's been violated, they just didn't tell you about it.

express your concern in a gentle and loving way and remember that she can still see you as a stallion ... don't take her sexual vitality away ... she was already forced to lose an innocence that she'll never get back.

Counseling couldn't hurt either ... 1800 LIFENET.

good luck.

I am going to assume that i found out at this late date because the fallout was affecting us.

So yes finding out 34 years later, i would view her differently and try to be more supportive.

Old Guy

Only to maybe have the utmost respect for her. To have come through something like that and not let it consume your life--pretty amazing and strong.

What kind of a worthless piece of sh*t would look at his wife differently for having been violated as a child? Are you out of your mind?

I think that you would probably feel lied to for not being told this at first, but I think hopefully you would be able to understand the reasons why she didn't disclose it in the beginning.

How could you possibly?

xoxoxoxo

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