Why do you think if he won't marry you he will stay around if you have a baby?

It did come off a lil judgemental but I will answer from my point of veiw-

When my Fiance and I first got together (we have know each other for years) we were very sexually attracted. We both come from Christian backgrouds so we knew pre-marital sex is wrong however we were both not virgins and decided to go for it. Neither one of us thought we could have children. We did talk about wanting kids but knew that was probally a pipe dream. We then started talking about marrage and what not 3 months later we found out I was pregnant. When that had happened I was no longer on my parents medical insurance so I had to file with the state, that prevented us from getting married becuase once married they cut your benefits and in order to have a baby you need medical benefits! Anyways now our wedding is set for May

So to answer your question I dont think people really think like "hey lets have a kid because its cool" I think it just happens and they role with it (well some are planned but not all)

May I ask why you are concerned with others choices?

He's 35 and he is male; 2 moves in opposition to him. On best of that you're asking him to feel???? Take the bull through the horns, ask him if there's any scientific motive why he will have to now not have a little one. If there's a feasible motive then begin the adoption approach. I have six daughters, 3 followed and 3 organic, they usually all conspire and make my existence a residing hell; existence does not get any higher than this. It issues now not if they're organic or followed; a daughter is a daughter untill they blank out your pockets and kick grime over your frame. Some day I am going to have get a license for a weapon of mass destruction; while the six of them occasion it's quite horrifying.

Well Let's see I do believe in marriage now. But my husband and I did have our child before we got married! I loved him deeply but was terrified because all my family who had relations and got married it fell apart so I decided marriage was not for me. It was not till I started to go to church and decide on MY OWN to get married. I don't feel it is right for anyone to judge on what people do. Everyone has their own reasons why they do what they do. And from my own personally experience I have more compassion for others who have and are going through it! I also want to add it is not always the MEN who have problems with commitment I believe that is very sex est for you to imply as well! Cause it was my husband who wanted the marriage at first not me! So just a tip people have their own issues and there is no need for you to have posted this. It is called Judging and that's God's Job!

P.S. In where in my statement did I say anything bout people and the way they are living? I never said anything Judgmental by no means I just simply stated that this question is not appropriate people all have their own lives to live and their reasons behind it. There is no need for people to explain to you why they make or made the choices they have. The only one we have to answer to is God!

My husband and i got married then tried for a baby, I can understand why some people do it the other way around and some just don't want to get married at all, as long as the child has both its mother and father in there life (whether they are still together or not) then that is all that matters.

some people don't believe in marriage, its just a piece of paper. if anything having children is even more of a commitment to someone as marriage is reversable, children arnt.

me and my husband decided to get married and really start trying to concieve i think its better that way!!! reasuring me that hes willing to commit and that shows me hes ready to be a father atleast a responsible one

Wow. Looking for an arguement you aren't you!