Why won't my boyfriend be intimate with me?

sounds like he's suffering from an embarrassing case of erectile dysfunction that could be brought on by his weight and being out of shape. This leads to low self esteem issues.

Both of you get on a program of healthier eating and exercise. As the pound come off of you and him the fire will again start to burn.

Hm, this is a tough one and I can't always be led to believe that a man is cheating just because he doesn't want sex...

He is probably tired, just like he says. I do know that stress and tiredness do contribute to a low libido. My boyfriend went through that when he was working REALLY hard and I wanted sex like a nymphomaniac. If you haven't already tried this, give him a massage with oils and such. Read techniques on some maneuvers you could use. And be sexy about it--do it naked or half-clothed. My boyfriend likes that a lot and it relaxes him, which equals more sex for me!

If that doesn't work, suggest that he see a doctor--not for the low libido--but for the stress and tiredness.

And if he won't do that, all I can say is he might be feeling more of a "friendly" love for you than anything. In my relationship, I've noticed that over time the sex has tapered as well, so this Valentine's Day I'm going to (don't laugh) try some unscented human pheromones to possibly help kick-start his sex drive so we can have some "hot-n-steamy" like it was in the beginning of our relationship. I'm going to pair that with a night out and a strip tease. You could try that. I don't know how successful I'll be, but it's worth it to me.

Don't knock it til ya try it, right?

You haven't really talked to him about this, besides perhaps suggesting sex & him stating his tired. You need to ask him whats wrong, whats stressing him &n why he doesn't want to make love to you because really being tired can only take you so far. It might be that he doesn't have the stamina & in that case perhaps joining the gym is a good idea to get your energy back & changing your diet

My first guess is hes masturbating, how can you compete with his hand? impossible. Next i would call a dr up and make a app its worth it in the long run because he might have low tesostergene. I dought its cheating since he likes to cuddle and all and my husband unless he was close to death he still wanted it so the tired thing dont get it.

Put together a short love get away. Let him know what you expect while the two of you are there. That may be enough to get him back on track. Other wise, seek some counseling. Good Luck

Perhaps he feels bad about himself and wonders why you're even with him. Try getting his self esteem up, talking about how much you love him, and how ATTRACTIVE he is to you, stuff like that...

You're not married so move out.