Coping with parents divorce.?

No, that was not hard to understand at all. Of course you're life has been abruptly changed, and it's difficult to deal with things. It seems as though your parents have joint custody and you spend three days with one and then back again. Maybe you would be happier if you could live primarily with one parent, then have regular visitation with the other. Talking to both of your parents about this would be the thing to do.

Also you need to understand that none of this is your fault, and your parents both love you equally, and want to spend time with you. They also still love each other, but sometimes marriages just dont work and it's not really any one person's fault. Things will fall into place as time goes by. Do explain to your parents the things that are bothering you and maybe there's a compromise that will work for everyone. Your parents want you to be as happy as possible, so do tell them. Good luck.

Being a child torn between two parents is a terrible thing, because it forces you to wonder if any two people who make vows really mean it! But I assure you that in the beginning they very certainly loved each other, but over a few decades, as they are individuals - life changed them. People grow - but some people grow at different rates, and that's what happens. As a girl about to become a woman - you will learn that it is usually the man (husband) that is more prone to want to change - and woman for whatever reason, are willing to put up with an inadequate mate - except if he is brutish or indiscreet. You are sad because you don't understand why your parents "broke up" and they don't want you feel angry or sad - but they cannot explain it to you yet - you must try to see this situation from both sides, and someday when you are mature enough - they will explain it to you. But meanwhile - as inconvenient as it is - its best for your parents.

It will continue to be hard to adjust to because it is such a disruption to your previous life. I would suggest that you talk in private with your teacher about it and see if your school has a guidance counselor you could talk to about the changes that are happening in your life. You could also ask your parents if they could find a counselor or therapist for you to talk to. It's just to help you sort out your feelings about the changes in your life...not because you are unusual or having any more problems than anyone else in the same situation.

You can also keep a journal and write about it --no rules, no grammar, no spelling...just put your feelings down on paper--even doing it once helps. When you are ready, you can also talk to your friends about what has happened. Good luck and write back here if you need to.