I can't get over her, what do I do?

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So... about a year ago, sometime in mid-to-late February I started going out with a girl. She was one of my best friends before that and eventually it led to us dating. Then about six months later sometime around August or September, we broke up. She ended up going to another school, we never really saw each other, we drifted apart, so she broke up with me.

It's almost February... and she's already found somebody else and seems to really like them. 
But I... still like her. I thought at first I was just having a tough time getting over her. And she was only my third girlfriend, yet I can't stop wanting to be with her again. I keep thinking, man I need to get a new girlfriend, maybe I'll forget about her. But every time I see somebody who I have an a small interest in, she invades my mind once more. I want to get over her... Want to move on. I don't want to like her anymore, because I know that she won't like me like that again.

We're still good friends, but we don't see each other as often. This is because she's been really busy.

I don't know if it's because I love her? I don't know if I'm old enough to "love" someone, but all I know is that she is very important to me and I wish I had her back. I wish I'd never agreed to breaking up with her, wish I could kick this new person out of the picture and have her want to be with me again. 

I don't know what to do...

Roxanne S · Accepted Answer

Well, first off I'd like to say that I don't buy the whole "Teenagers can't fall in love" and blah blah blah-they can. I mean, sure, sometimes you can mix love with feelings you think you might have and it can turn out to be puppy love/crush or just you wanting something so bad that you think you have feelings.

Anyways, you have to move on because she is with someone else now which means she's off limits unless she ever breaks up with her and still has feelings with you. For now though, you have to just think of her as a friend. Of course, it's easier said than done and it's not easy to get over someone especially if you still have feelings for them. So try to date around and don't compare your ex to other girls. I know that if you still love your ex that you probably won't 'want another girl but you have to if you're going to move on, other than that you can just stay single or wait for your ex and see what goes on, it's really all up to you on the end. But I do suggest that you try to date other girls if there's girls you like or think you'd like. Try to get to know them, etc. But only do this if you really feel open to it right now. 

Best of luck :)

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