What would you do if life was this hard?

Hmm...

Don't live in like here now & don't look at the past. Look towards the future & how happy you can be. People that dwell in the past will forever dwell in the past. People that look towards the future can be productive & move on & get what they really want in life. Be who you are & don't let anyone hold you back. You are the creator of your happiness. You are the creator of your destiny. Just love yourself.

& I know losing a loved one or even just a job is very difficult but you'll move on. Everything will be okay. Life is like a rose in a way... It's beautiful & vibrant but you can get hurt from it if you touch a thorn. Then once all the thorns are gone it's beautiful & it won't hurt you... But then the flower weeps & dies. It's life. No matter how much pain you'll go through everything is still beautiful :) cheer up buttercup.

Change is difficult. These are some big changes and can feel overwhelming. It's normal to feel depressed. How you cope with these changes is entirely up to you. It is your responsibility. You are the one who must respond. So be sure to put the question to yourself: what are you going to do?

Set some goals. Identify your needs and prioritize them, then make a plan of action as to how to get what you need. You haven't been able to get a job, but is a job really what you need? If you've gotten by for three months without one, how much longer can you go? Perhaps safe reliable employment isn't possible at this time, but there may be a string of short term income opportunities that can help you slide. If you don't have enough hours of work to qualify for unemployment then you could qualify for S.S.I. and nutrition assistance. You might be able to get temporary work delivering for Valentines day. These are not long term solutions.

I don't want to sound insensitive, but death is a fact of life that everyone must deal with sooner or later. If you are having trouble dealing with it, then post a question just about that. Some people will be despondent after the death of a family member while others will cope easily. It doesn't mean either loved any more or less; they just cope differently.

I would focus on my present situation and consider the tragic deaths as the past. I would realize that being without a job gives me more time to figure out how to start my own business. I would read self help books to better myself and review college textbooks or just read any book. Since I have access to the internet I actually read e-books and watch youtube tutorials.

Suggested reading:

We're All Doing Time: A Guide to Getting Free. by Bo Lozof

The Road Less Traveled by M.Scott Peck, M.D.

Rich Dad/Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

When life get that hard for me, and believe me, it HAS (and maybe even worse) I recite a few affirmations that I have been using all my life every few minutes of every day. I just do the next best right thing in front of me at the time, and when the next best right thing in front of me is painful, then I focus on the "bigger picture". I man-up, grow some balls, and get through it like everyone else. I cry myself a river, build a bridge, and get over it.

I do not mean to sound mean here, and I am sorry you are going through all of that all at the same time.....but you HAVE to keep you chin up anyway you can. Lean on your friends and family. Seek professional help if need be. JC-you have to do something before you end up in the mental hospital, in a straight jacket, in the rubber room all jacked up on meds. Suicide is NOT the answer either.

YOU have to just dig deep into you own self and find what you need to get onn. Pray and forgive, and keep looking for any kind of job you can get. Getting a job would surely help you get outa yourself. Why not volunteer at the senior citizen's center, or the local homeless shelter, or the children's ward at the hospital. I am sure there are many children who would love to hear you read them a story....... Or, even the local animal shelter I am sure they could use some pooper picker uppers.....

YOU definitely need to get outta yourself and not think about what you are going through for a few minutes of the day....everyday, increasing the time away from yourself.

When life gets hard, we should get stronger. I am very sorry for your losses and I understand your plight. First of all, you have more strength than you know and I am sure you can handle this. There are always opportunities behind adversities, so don't give up. First of all, this is only temporary. Things will get better as long as you don't give up. You have a lot to be grateful for: your health, your inner strength, food and shelter. Think of what you have now and you'll feel better. As hard as it may be for you, someone else's life may be even harder. Don't feel so bad because you're not alone. Be strong, believe in yourself and all your worries will soon dissipate. Good luck to you and don't give up. Try to smile a few times a day. That will help to alleviate some of the pain you feel inside.

Sorry for your losses mate, but like others have said you just got to look forward to the future. I think at the moment, is that you need to be more positive and optimistic, I know that may be hard, but being negative about things can really affect your changes on something good happening, for example getting a job. Don't be afraid to talk to someone about your problems, talking to someone can really take the edge off, and try to not think about the past and just getting your life back on track. The people who I know that have experienced rough times and recovered are some of the most strong willed and inspiring people I know. It will get better I promise, you just need to dedicate yourself and priotise, focus on what you think is most important and work from there.

When it happened to me, I kept on living and looking for a job. But I probably have a vastly different view of life than you do, not that I'm the eternal optimist, but I'm not going to let anything defeat me. I'll get a job as a garbage man, or at a recycling center, mowing lawns, washing windows, being a hotel maid, or even driving around picking up roadkill. Most people have a list of jobs that are "beneath' them, or things they won't do (usually out of pride) ... I don't

Honestly dude, people have it way worse than that. The quicker you realize that the quicker you will be a happier person. I used to pity myself all the time until I realized someone just got killed right now, someone got raped, someone died of hunger and so on.

Just forget it dude, things happen. Its not going to change it.

So what would I do? I would keep living and keep trying.

we must do struggle for existance