Wife and I cannot talk anymore?

I hate to say it but she's a spoiled wench. Come be my man and give her the keys to the car if you have bought it and kick her out of the house! I so hate women like this. She had to step off her throne and unfortunately it will never be the same. The family was right.

Do email me.

How about you START to understand a woman's perspective on communication patterns? If she was the love of your life, we can assume that you were the same to her. What happened?

What happened is the little wedges of indifference and muddles of unforgiveness crept in little by little causing a rift that could only get wider. At some point, most people say "we've grow apart". And that's a lie. You have NOT grown apart. You have LET your marriage split apart because of unresolved conflict where each little wedge caused more and more distance. Can it come back together?

Yes. It can. It's done through the process of FORGIVENESS and RECONCILIATION.

I'm glad you spoke so well of what's happening. For there is something here that you don't seem to grasp. If your wife is the cause to all this junk, then WHY are you feeling all the pain? You are feeling used and abused because you EXPECT something in return for your "love". ahhh - this is then NOT love! It's called: "selfishness".

What you do appears to be loving gestures, but you're not doing them for the sake of love. Your doing them to satisfy yourself or the expectation of reciprocity! With no love flowing from her end, you feel left out, wrecked and wounded.

Do you think you are doing GOOD things here? (It would seem so.) Then WHY do you not feel JOY and HAPPINESS in the prospect that you are continually loving your wife? You don't feel joy and even want OUT because you EXPECT something in return. GROW UP. This is not love! What you do, you do out of selfishness and when you don't get what you want in return, you have become bitter and resentful.

Time to GROW UP and figure out what love really means!

And since you do not know now what it means, you have NEVER known what it means! Perhaps she knows this too!

Get a clue.

"Love and Respect" by E. Eggerichs

"The Five Love Languages" by G. Chapman

"His Needs - Her Needs" by W. Harley

"Love, Honor and Forgive" by Pam Farrell

"Boundaries" by Cloud / Townsend

in fact........you do divorcecare.com. The 13 weeks will do you good.

Spend a couple hundred bucks on KNOWLEDGE instead of an attorney.

There are two side to a story but sense you are the one who is asking the question I'll assume your telling the truth. You do know the more you give the more she will want plus you make it to easy to get over on you. We women want a man that won't take our shi+ and you my friend sound like your taking what she is dishing out. I can tell you right now she does not respect you nor does she love you or should I say her love for you is buried so far down it's going to take some work from you to resurface that's if you want it to. I can only tell you how it worked for me I once felt toward my husband like your wife feels for you. There were times I couldn't stand him to touch me but then something changed he stopped showing me any kind of attention. The more he pulled away the more I wanted his attention before I knew what happened I was falling in love with him or should I say my love was resurfacing. You always want what you can't have or what you think you might be loosing. If you want her start neglecting her it works every time but it doesn't work overnight it could take a month or a year it depends on how bad things has gotten between the two of you. Sounds like she has been wearing the pants long enough time to man-up and take control of your house and I mean that in a nice way.

This happened to my husband with his ex--for 5 years. I'm really, really sorry you're going through this. I think it's just plain cruel.

I don't know if you did anything wrong, I don't know if you're blissfully unaware of anything you may be doing to push he away or if you're just carefully avoiding your share of the blame, or if you really are blameless to begin with. Either way, if she can't even give you 10 minutes without screaming then no, you don't deserve it. She is an adult, she needs to act like one and discuss her problems with you. Since you're trying to get a counselor you are OBVIOUSLY trying to find the root of the problem. The least she could do is humor you and go along.

Let's see, she doesn't work, you work overtime, she has the NERVE to ask you for a NEW car? Sorry, but I get the impression she resents going to work and blames you for not providing. She sounds like a spoiled little brat.

"This girl was the love of my life! I never loved someone or something so much in my whole life."

Well there's your problem. Women dont like men who treat them great. They do for a short while, then they take them for granted, get bored with them, etc. Trust me, I know. You better start accepting that its over. I know it hurts, man. Ive been there.

Going forward, you have to decide if you are going to be an actor, and play the part of the "bad boy" that women like, or if its not worth it to you to put yourself through the acting crap. At the very least, vow to yourself you will never fall in love like that again.

If you do not have children, it is better in case you should get a divorce. Either way, if you are married that means you have aggreed with God's plan for family to be together. Can i advise you to do an experiment? Try to reserve one day our of your week to fast and pray...just one day...drink plenty of water, but prepare to be on your knees and plead with the Lord.

Say this prayer: Dear Lord, You created families, You said it was good for man to be alone. Unfortunatelly, things are very bad for my wife and me - I need your help! I do not know what to do! But You can and do know what and how to revive my marriage! My wife is going through a difficult dark phase, please Lord do show me what to do"

Now, do you recall how Nahman the leper, did not want to try to bathe himself 7 times in a muddy river? my point is not about rivers and mud, my point is the advice the servant spoke to him: "if Elisha had asked you something difficult to do, wouldn't you do it no matter what? but he asked you something so simple. just do it and see what will happen" So as you know the story, he did it, and a miracle happened. Please try to use one day, just one, to fast and pray..then, wait and see what God will do..."stand back, and see the power of the Lord". Trust HIM ! He is the Healer of broken hearts, and he can change your wife's heart too! Divorcing should not be an option, only in very very, very extreme circumstances! Try to give more than receiving! Do nice things for her, like helping with the home tasks if necessary...she will come around, not because of herself, but because of the power of God!

try this maybe it will or not work. she is probably feeling a since of independencence and feels like sdon'tont really need you anymore or she is just a bitch but anyways just leave her alone and give her her independence and stop asking her for ten minutes just leave her alone and be about your own go do something you enjoy like golfing or shopping for yourself do something that you like doing thdoesn'tsnt involve her bdon'tont cheat on her or hang out with another female unless its a family member, anyways just give her her space and eventually if she really loves you then she will come around and realize it and want your time> believe me if she loves you she will notice that you are not there and want you if not then she probably doesn't like you

If you want to do a legal separation you both need to sign a paper and you need to move out. Keep in mind she will most likely be granted alimony (she'll start taking a portion of your check), so you will probably have to put the house up for sale.

If she cant talk to you then their is nothing you can do about it. It would benefit you both probaly to spend some time apart for awhile or maybe surprise her with gifts or something like that if she doesn't react to anything you do then you really cant help it.

as you can see by ''wacasta'' there will always be females to come in the back door while they whisper to you to throw your wife out the front door.

watch out for money hungry home wreckers.

do everything you can to save your marriage.

because unless you are involved in a good church there will be many females sharks out there.