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c dog asked in HealthMental Health · 1 decade ago

Im so confused bout my life?

where to start.. im 22 live with my mom and step dad... i have only friend right now.. i never had a girlfriend... im always in my room playn xbox and even there i dont have thst many of friends.. it seems like the only good thing im doin is tryn to get a job.. i dont want ppl to feel sry for me but i just get really depressed bout my life snd not having a girlfriend..im a shy guy but not as shy as i used to be. i feel like my life is in a hole right now..i feel like nobody likes me excepr for my family.. i want more friends really bad and a girlfriend even more.. i know ppl tell me to go up to a random girl and star talkn but i dont think im capable of goin up to a random girl. sometimes i just want to cry bout my life..i try to write to girls on facebook but they never reply.. it seems like i cant get a girl who I like im so confused if anybody can help me i would deeply appreciate it..

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  • Andy
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    you'll meet chicks if you get a job, or go to school. i can't give you any advice on asking girls out because honestly i'm a shy guy too, and while i have been with my gf for 6 years and have been asked out by other people...i've never been the one to make the first move... so no help there, but i mean obviously you're not gonna meet girls sitting in your room all day.

    as for wanting a gf really bad, i love my gf and i'm happy being in a relationship...but there are plenty of pros to being single that you don't realise right now...grass is greener on the other side and all that... your money is your money, you don't have to have stupid arguments about meaningless things, you don't have to think about someone else when you make a decision, etc. etc. etc.

    i'm sure you'll find someone eventually but you should focus on improving yourself, and doing the things you want until that happens.

  • Mike
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    You need to build confidence is the main thing. You have fear of rejection. This applies to friends and girlfriends. You are afraid of being made fun of, being rejected, or looking like a fool - so you avoid the situations.

    Xbox and videogames are a great way to escape from your problems, but they're only isolating you even more. I'd take baby steps. Start saying "Hi" to strangers. Then move on to small talk, then conversations.

    Also, I recommend reading the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss. There is an audiobook and the ebook on torrent sites, but its in most libraries. The book is about how to approach picking up girls from a psychological view - but its a narrative. So it's easy and fun to read. I was just as shy as you were. I've been dating my girlfriend for 4 years, so I used the techniques in the books to gather the courage to talk to people and make friends.

    They describe talking to strangers as jumping in a pool. Before you jump in you're afraid it will be cold, so you don't want to jump. However, when you do - it might shock you a bit. But the more you jump in, the more you get used to the water, and the easier it gets. Hopefully it helps.

    Shoot me a message if you have a question

  • 1 decade ago

    hello:D Well, sometimes i feel the same. You need to make some new friends. burn your xbox and get out of your room and start going out and talking to people. even make some internet friends and then see them in real life. start to accomplish your dreams. Live your life cause you get to live it once. I wish you the best of luck.

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