Is he being abusive towards me?

This is a question you will continue asking yourself for years to come if you stay with him. He is clinically depressed, which means that you cannot treat him as you would the average guy. He's severely insecure, uptight, dependent, and definitely has the potential to be physically abusive to you or continue abusing himself. It's extremely unhealthy because all I see is the future of how things are going to continue falling apart. It will not get better with him.

Take love out of the equation. He needs serious therapy. For things that seem minor now, they will become major down the road. The longer you stay, the sorrier you'll feel for him, and it will be harder to leave. And some of the things he does in front of you like hitting himself are antics to get you stay. He wants you to feel like **** if you try to leave him. He might even threaten suicide to make you stay. Before it gets to that point, tell him now that he should consider seeing a therapist regularly and just focus on himself right now. Let him know you'll be there for him as a friend, but the arguing has got to stop because it's harmful to both of you. Tell him you can't be with him at all if he doesn't seek serious help.

Well the fact that he was diagnosed with depression says a lot. Make sure he takes his medication on time, I mean, he has it for a reason lol. And try convincing him not to drink as much if he is an angry drunk.

But I know what you mean, about resenting him for making you feel guilty. That's not what a good boyfriend should be doing; you should have your freedom while being in this relationship. Honestly, I think you should just tell him whats on your mind and lay everything out on the table. If he doesn't like it, then I guess that's too bad because you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone that's always making you feel miserable.

And from past experience, I can tell you that just because you love someone, doesn't mean they are right for you.

I do wish the best for both of you.

Hmm, well if he really loved you he wouldn't wanna make you feel guilty about it. I think his depression is taking the best of him and turning him into something he's really not. But honestly, idk how much more patient I would be at this point I mean is he showing signs of getting any better? And I doubt you're a bad gf u seem pretty nice and patient to me so he's really in the wrong here. Who get's mad at someone for not answering texts right away? I mean u do have a life after all! Breaking up with him wouldn't do any good either cuz it sounds like he loves u a lot. All I can say is wait and hope he gets better. Sorry I couldn't help much.

the only being abused would be himself...thinkin that he doesnt deserve anyone and HITTING himself??

mami, Just try your best to be there for him because it WILL NOT do him any good if you leave him. But, dont be stupid either. If it gets to a point where its etreme, which by the way I think it already is, leave him but gently

Yes, he's being emotionally abusive towards you and is, whether knowingly or not, controlling and playing mind games with you. He's got anger issues and makes you feel like it's your fault all the time. This is not healthy. You should talk to someone really close to you, maybe a mother, sister or friend, about it and get help.

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He sounds insecure but whatever the reason it's not right for him to expect you not to go out and see your friends, he might be your boyfriend but he isn't your entire life.

Tell him that, tell him that you wouldn't expect him not to go out and see his mates without you so why doesn't he expect you not to, and if he isn't okay with that then you're better off without him.