I want to ask him out but everyone says I should let the man be the aggressor. What should I do?

It's all individual preference... Waiting for a man to do everything is an old-fashioned way of thinking. Women have fought for equality, and that means they should also be allowed to ask a guy out if they want to. If you like the guy, then just go for it... Like you said, you're better off going for it than waiting years for him to (possibly) ask you out.

Good luck.

Hi, Have you suggested that the two of you do something together ? This is like asking him out but putting an idea in his head and giving him the chance and opportunity to do some of the asking. If this does not work, I guess you could do the asking or saying than such and such event is coming up and you wish you had someone to go with. Or of course you could say you need a date to go to the social event that is coming up and see if he would be interested in going to it with you.

Just ask him to a movie or something neutral like that. If the two of you are friends, it shouldn't be hard to ask him to spend time with you outside the coffee shop... good luck.

its better to now realize this guy is probably not interested in you. as he would have asked you out or suggested something that would encourage you. its not a good idea to ask him out.

go for it... theres no harm asking him out ...every man is not an aggressor... but you will surely get to know if he is in for u or not... both ways no harm in asking...

yeah sure. guys like it anyways.

go for it