3 year old and hatred speech?

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My 3 almost 4 year old is talking so horribly, when he doesn't get his way he says he's going to hit us, and he calls us stupid. One day my husband left for work to work with a guy named Bryce, my son said "I'm going to shoot bryce" I was in shock, he's with me all the time, we don't own a TV and he's not near people that say words like this. 
Its coming to the point now where when he plays with his friends and his brother all he says is I'm going to hit you, and your stupid. When he says that I tell him to not say words like that because they are hurtful. 
I know 3 and 4 year olds are very strong hearted but I really feel like I might need to do something about this and would like to hear others experiences and any possible solutions.
Thank you.

laura2ooi · Accepted Answer

So, here is what I recommend- you can not give him attention for the behavior. I recommend you try timeout but before you do that I highly recommend you go for a evaluation. He sounds like an angry child and that anger is coming from somewhere and the best thing to do is find the source of that anger and get the issue resolved. Now, I do not want you to blame yourself it is not your fault. So, do not feel like I am judging you. Depending on where you live their are several free family resource services that are available to you, and that is where you need to research. I wish I knew you cause I could tell you a few off that bat of my head in my area. Secondly, does he go to school? You need to get him an outlet for this, like a sport- some communities offer soccer for tots my 4 year loves it. You also might want to check out a book called Raising Happiness- I love it. Best thing you may want to do is get him a psych evaluation, by a child psychologist and get him into some activities. And if he is not in school or VPK or headstart- you may want to get him into that as well.  You need to redirect that anger into something positive and cheer him on when you get him into it. FYI DCF offers great family centered services- a great deal of people think DCF oh they take away kids but that is a big misconception if you ever call their office they offer great family service programs and they help real well. The other option is you Google free services. And get the help you need. Definitely do the evaluation, talk to him one on one- in our home we have a feelings chart and we express how we feel and also get him into an activity that is all his. Look into your local community resources. I hope that helped.

eth · Answer

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Pretty Maggie Money Eyes · Answer

he is being influenced by SOMETHING or SOMEONE.
he shouldn't know what "shoot" is and he shouldn't have heard the word "stupid". i would figure out fast what is causing your sons behavior and cut it out of his life. it's not his fault, he is picking these things up and thinking that they are cool. it doesn't make him a bad boy, but discipline is needed to curb his behavior.

Anonymous · Answer

That sounds scary.. You might need to talk to some specialist because it is a concern, especially when you don't know where he gets it from..

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