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mel asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 decade ago

Dad and boyfriend problems?

So here's the story. I moved from my mom's more than 7 months ago to my dad's because she divorced my step dad. My dad has been trying to get me to live with him and I've been wanting to live with him. Then here comes this dude, the love of my life. I'm 100% sure. He takes real good care of me, stays with me if I'm alone (because my dad and step mom often leave the house without saying a word), offers to provide for me. He's not possessive or anything, he just wants me to be happy and live a good life. He understands me like no other and I've had 2 long term relationships before. So anyways, we've been together for at least 4 months. I know that seems like a short time but I hear a lot of stories where people date for two months, get married for a long time. But back to the story. We've been getting in trouble for having sleepovers at each others houses and I get in trouble for staying out really late, and not getting any jobs. I really have been trying and my boyfriend helps me. I really ruined my dad's trust though. I can't even leave my room to face him because I'm ashamed that I hurt and disappoint him like that. I mean he was the most important person in my life even though I didn't live with him for 16 or 17 years. On the other hand, I am almost 20 years old, I feel too old for curfews, and I'm having the time of my life with someone who believes in true love as much as I do. I don't know what to do about this situation. I'd like to move out because I don't like rules and to see my boyfriend everyday but I still need parent's support and love, I don't want my dad to feel bad and disappointed. It's just so stressful. And we were planning a trip to Six Flags but I don't know if I'm allowed. I'm too scared to ask my pops. I could just imagine him saying "NOO! you kidding me?!" I'm old and mature enough right? Maybe I'm not. ahh I'm torn.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Well that's a hard one the love of your life and the man who gave you life. you're right you are almost 20 years old but you still live with your dad and as long as you live with him you need to try to obey him Try to get your dad to meet your boyfriend show him what a charming man he is and try to talk to your dad i know it's MUCH easier said that done but you really need to sit down with him and tell him exactly what you provided in the question, you feel to olds for curfews and your truly happy with your boyfriend, also that your hurt that you don't even feel like you can look at your dad any more because of this situation and how he feels about it. Try to tie in the question about Six flags with your talk maybe even have him get a date and come along, you said your mom divorced your step dad right? as long as they don't absolutely have each other see if you could even get your mom to go with him as a one time thing of coarse. well best of luck to you i hope everything works out okay.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    so long as you live in your fathers house you should follow his rules. If you move out then that is up to you to decide but remember guys and girls have different mentality. this boy who is getting you into all this trouble would one day find a new girl....but your father will forever love you

  • 1 decade ago

    girl your old enough your 19 wat almost 20 and you right you should get a job and move out of ur pops house you need to have fun you can't be tied down by your parents just face him and tell him how it is ok don't be scared take a deep breathe and do it k

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