Wedding cake for parents?

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First, let me say that I am not the kind of bride that believes my wedding day is all about ME. I believe that weddings are about the joining of two people who have committed their love and lives to one another, and to two families coming together through this union, and most importantly, a recognition of the beautiful and sacred covenant of marriage. 
Partly because of my personal views, I am thinking about having a second wedding cake - a smaller, simpler version of my groom's and my own. This would be in place of a traditional groom's cake, which we would simply serve at the rehearsal dinner instead of the reception. Anyway, the second cake would be a cake for his parents - who have treated me like their own daughter, supported our relationship from the beginning, shown us what true and unyielding commitment in marriage is, and who never had their own wedding reception, as they eloped all those 33 years ago.
Not to take away from the traditional cake cutting of course, my groom and I would have our moment, and then, as our cake is being whisked back to the kitchen to be cut and served, we would have the DJ ask his parents to come to the floor for a special surprise. The staff would then bring out the second cake, and they would get their own cake-cutting. 
Anyways, I know that this is a really long explanation for a couple of simple questions. Namely, have you ever seen something like it before? And second, do you think it's a good idea, or do you think our guests will find it to be tacky?

truefirstedition · Accepted Answer

I think it's a really sweet gesture, but are his parents the kind of people who would like that, or would they get embarrassed at being the center of attention? And how would your parents feel about it - left out? If you single out one family, they might feel slighted.

Just some things to consider. If you're at all iffy about it, skip it and save your idea for their anniversary. Then they get to have a special moment on "their" day :)

Danielle · Answer

I love the idea, you're a very thoughtful and caring gal.  But you don't give any info on who is hosting the rehearsal and the wedding.  Most weddings are hosted by the bride's parents, and the rehearsal is the groom's parents' domain.  So if you'd like to present a cake to the grooms' parents, it's best to do it at the rehearsal, so as not to steal focus from your parents as hosts of the actual wedding reception.  I know my mother would have been livid if I had done something in recognition of my in laws at my wedding, because she was adamantly THE host of my wedding day.  Not that I condone her attitude, but that's another story.

That's just my recommendation because people get very touchy about who's hosting what when it comes to weddings.  The bridesmaids all want their names on the shower invitations, etc.  I think to surprise his parents at the rehearsal dinner with their own cake to cut and serve each other would be a very touching gesture from you and the groom.

Anonymous · Answer

Definately no longer cheesy! on no account! Useing your parents wedding ceremony cake topper is nice and harmless. i visit look amazing im particular! you may alsways save the topper and hand it down for greater generations to return! kinda like a convention! good luck

Vibiana · Answer

I did this at my wedding, because we were married the day before my parents' anniversary and they, too, had eloped during WWII.  It was one of the most special moments of the day.

adrianeboo · Answer

I think it's a very, unselfish act. Planning my own wedding, I found that a lot of things were "tacky", which I have grown to hate. It's your wedding, do what you want to do!! I'm sure his parents will be elated!

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't matter whatt they think, if your doing it out the goodness of your heart. Then forget them :)

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