Question about a Philippine girl i've been corrosponding with ?

No Filipina will admit that they only marry foreign men for money (not to you anyway). However if you ever fail to meet her endless financial requests then she will leave you. She won't leave you with your dignity and respect in mind either. She will do everything that she can do to get under your skin in the process of leaving you to include cheating on you with your close male friends, draining your bank account, and anything else that comes to mind that is as heart wrenching as she can make it. I have always considered the Filipina/Foreigner relationship as a prostitute/client relationship. That is how ALL filipinos think also even though very few will tell you that to your face. Why not marry a girl from your own country? In my opinion it is better for a foreigner to do that instead of marry a Filipina. Good luck.

1. I don't know the statistics but I don't think NOT ALL Filipinas go to work. But yeah, I think they're lots too.

2. Of course the husband has the most responsibilities. Not just because he's American or a foreigner, the husband should be the one leading his family. He's the "man."

3. Maybe her family has lots of problems. (If you're the guy, the American husband/boyfriend) Why don't you ask them? If they're asking for too much and it seems like what they're asking for is not really important, you can talk them.

4. The best way is to be open with the family. Tell them what you feel. You'll need lots of understanding and patience.

Hope I helped!

This is something you need to discuss before marriage, how much, how often, etc. Without doing so, it will not matter how much you send, it will never be enough. When they finally do break you, (which they will if you let them) you will be the bad guy. The more you help them, the more you will be expected to do. The more you do, the less they will work.

The real question is, does this girl love you for you, or does she love you for your money? Tell her in your culture the children are not expected to forever support the entire family. If you do send money, send no more than she would likely earn if she were living there with them. In this area that would equal around $100/month. If she can not abide by these terms, then you know for sure what she loves, you or your money.

You should be able to figure the rest out from there.

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I'm half filipino and my wife is full. I didn't grow up with my fiiipino side, so I'm totally americanized and I was unfamiliar with filipino values when I first began dating her. This basically comes with the territory. No matter what you do or say, nothing can get her to stop caring about her family. When you marry a filipino girl, you marry her family. You have two options... accept it and deal with it or break up with her while you're still ahead...There's no way around this. I've had talks with my wife about this many times and I've come to accept it. Good luck.

Update: No problem, I feel for you. It's a bad situation. I know exactly how it is. You want to say something and stop it from happening...But if you do, you look like a jerk...But at the same time if you follow a long with it, you fear financial hardship.

Before you and your GF get too serious you both need to come to an agreement about Faith, children and living location. For Asians it is very common for the adult children to help support mother and father because there is no SSI or other retirement pension plans there so it is the right and honorable thing to do. If you are unable or unwilling to help support the mother and father please don't go for a Filipina.

BEFORE YOU MARRY AGREE TO THE EXACT AMOUNT THIS SUPPORT WILL BE AND THAT THERE WILL BE NO EXCEPTIONS. Be very clear with mother and father the support is for them and them alone not other family members.

If the online GF is asking for family support now before your marriage I would politely and kindly dump her because her love is for your money not you or her family is pressuring her for money. I learned this lesson the hard way myself trust me on this.

As a straight answer to your question:

ONLY YOU AND YOUR GIRLFRIEND/ WIFE CAN SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM.

1.Yes, most of us Filipina girls work to help our families.

2.No, it is not your responsibility but if you are willing to help her '' MUCH BETTER'' no one can force you anyway. It's only a matter of ''GOODWILL'' on your side.

3.Maybe because you pretend to be good to them and show them that you can afford to give them

whatever they requests.

4.Just be honest to your girlfriend/wife be open to to them and tell them the things that you don't like specially your limitations with them.

An open conversation with your girlfriend/ wife is best for both of you.

1. yes depending on their financial status

2. as boyfriend no / as husband yes

3. if you are the husband, that's life / if you are the boyfriend, stop giving in to their requests

4. you can't, marriage is a one way ticket in philippines. unless you file annulment case

1. yes

2. no

3. because you keep on sending

4. proclaim yourself bankrupt

then get another wife if she abandons you.

I read some article that in total, it said it is cheaper to hire a prostitute

unless your devoted to your religion

Try to find a nice educated upper class ladies from Makati.