Do you draw blueprints for a living, when is your work day over?Do you drive to/from work & work half asleep?

My boyfriend draws plans for all sorts of buildings, schools, churches, colleges, police or other law centers and the like. Hardly anyone stays after 6:p.m. Most are gone by 5. My boy friend stays sometimes as late as 11 or midnight. I know this started shortly after his wife died; and now it is a everyday thing; even the weekends are spent working. It is effecting his health, sleep, eating habits and when/if he takes his medicines. We had an argument and part of it dealt with this "eat,breathe,live, revolve around work" issue. We've hardly see one another since he was out of work last ( working so much that he couldn't discern one day from the next or what time of day it was, or when or if he much needed medications were supposed to be taken. He became so confused from lack of sleep (working more than sleeping) then coming home and trying to run the house on EMPTY. He wound up in the hospital to get untangled and detoxed from taking medicines too close together because exhaustion had him living life in a blur of time, work, medicines, meals...eh lack of meals,sleep ...get the picture??? Once he drove to work, set off the alarm and was confused when the law came to check out the "burglar" who dazed, asked why they were there! The "burglar" of course being my boyfriend. He did not remember driving to work in the middle of the night ( remembers the cops) Didn't remember the drive home either. He is a good driver, but that won't cut the (sleep-drive) to work. He has tried to cut across medians to a restaurant instead of going up to the traffic light to make a U turn. Had I not been with him he could have got hurt and hurt others unintentionally. He actually thought there was no median between the lanes on the street we were on.

Yes he has diabetes, and is bipolar. And he has a quack in charge of the medicines he takes for being bipolar. (She has him wrapped around her finger...and I am waiting to see how long before she tells him to dump me...which I am fairly sure she will.) I want him happy and healthy and his medical problems as under control as possible. When I said as much on a visit (she wanted to see if I was suitable "rich enough in case one day he can't pay her fees". I am not rich even a little. And don't care if he is or not. She thinks I want his pay check like she does. I want his health, companionship, and love. Money is not what I worry about (maybe I should) I only want him to be happy, healthy, and more like his old self when his wife was still alive. That would be worth more to me than if he had Bill Gates deep pockets times infinity.

Anyone got any suggestions as to how I can help him see what this is doing to his health and happiness... to his kids ( both adults ). And even the impact it has on me as someone who loves him.

I see him heading for a physical, possible mental breakdown if something doesn't change. As his girl friend, I want to help him before he collapses. But hip-pa and other laws make trying to help near impossible. Doctors smile, nod, and ignore my being concerned about him. Even the laws in our state back workaholic bends. That is fine for PCs , and machinery but humans aren't

machines...at least last time I checked humans aren't.

MEN... I want your input on this since this is about another man, and you would understand better

possibly what he is feeling, and why he is pushing himself toward a breakdown.

Are you a workaholic? Do you know why? Do you try to change or like the exhaustion/

problems it causes you and your loved ones? Is your girlfriend/wife a workaholic?

WOMEN...I want your input on this if your boyfriend/husband does the workaholic, heading for a

breakdown thing. How do you deal with it or do you?

Serious answers please, goofy ones or smart mouthed ones will only prove something about you, how you were raised and what by.

Any constructive information or ideas would be appreciated by myself and his adult kids.. we are all concerned about him and what is happening.