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How much Child Support/Assistance is too much?
Please, please, read the entire post. I need ALL the POSITIVE feedback/Help you can give me. here's the scoop: I divorced from the mother of my kids 3yrs ago. We had already been living in seperate households. I live in one state she lived in NY state. I have never met the man who helped create me, so being part of my girls' lives has ALWAYS been a MOST. From the time that my ex-wife and I split up I ALWAYS wired money which helped a lot when she file for government assistance and had to put me on a Court Mandated support. The judge was very impressed that I had kept a record of all the money I had wired her, which helped me also because I had no back support to pay. Last year I lost my job and have recently found a job. I was fortunate enough to find a job within a month. I now make $2/hr less than what I was making. Aside from working full time I also attend school 2 nights a week. I filed for a support modification, requesting the support be lowered. I currently pay 463./bi weekly on top of Medical,Dental and Vision insurances for my girls, which leaves me with a take home of $453.95 bi weekly. Now this actually puts me way below the minimum wage for my state which is 8.25/hr. In the mean time, my ex-wife is still living off sec 8, welfare, food stamps and my Child Support. She is physically able to work. She has her High School diploma but chooses not to work. Why would she? She makes more than I do, without even working. My modification request court date is Next week on 4/7. I orcourse request an electronic hearing since I cant pay to fly out of state and be there personally. I need help.. I cant afford a lawyer, but one did give me a free consultation. He said she's ripping me off, she has the education to work, yet chooses not to, but in the end, there is no magic wand, magic word or sentence that I can say. It is what it is, I will still pay what I pay now. He said chances are things will be the same once that hearing is over with. I am attending school to get a degree to better myself, but with the money I am making I can hardly pay for my mortgage. Any suggestions? Thank you in advance.
3 Answers
- candy gLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
it depends on each case, BUT they take into account what you make and your outgoings and then take into account HER income and out goings an they make a judgment based off of that.
The whole issue of her working or not is really a moot one, for instance she can then start slamming you for child care fees etc etc some times it is not cost effective for her to work AND really do you want some stranger watching your babies???? IF of course the kids are in school then she should have her happy butt in work period.
BTW what you pay bi weekly was more than I got per month for 2 children and he never even paid it, so HOPEFULLY you have good chance of getting it lowered.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
How much is too much?
70% of your take home. -A friend of mine pays this for 3 kids
Another friend of mine paid ahead on his support for years and then wrote a 5k check when his ex got evicted. Long story short, they told him it didn't count and that it was a GIFT.
YOU are not going to win. She has you by your 2 little balls. I'm surprised the judge waived the back support.
Idealistically, the kids expenses should be half to each parent. The courts AND women will never allow that though since men are their milk cows.
I say you should be paying 20% of your kids needs, including insurance, and that the mother should have to prove AN EQUAL amount spent.
- ErikaLv 45 years ago
When kids are receiving state help, ORS/CSS mechanically presents little one aid offerings to the household considering that the volume of provide cash the custodial father or mother gets each and every month accrues as a debt to the state that you (the non-custodial father or mother) need to pay off. In different phrases, while your kids are receiving per thirty days aid within the type of public help, the little one aid you owe for that month need to move to the state to offset the debt. You can be required to pay off this cash till the debt is convinced, even supposing the custodial father or mother is going off public help, and even supposing you and the custodial father or mother reconcile. If the little one aid owed in the course of the days of public help exceeds the whole provide quantity paid to the household, the surplus quantity can be despatched to the custodial father or mother.
