Women, if we're flirting and you see I have a wedding band....?

Well you're in a tough spot because the girl might only have interest in you and not in your husband. So when they find out your bi, they might be cool with that but when they find out they also have to share you with your husband, that's when things start going down hill. You are basically looking for a bi-sexual woman who is interested in a polyamourous relationship and is attracted to both you and your husband enough to want to be intimate/fall in love with you both. That's not an easy woman to find. My feeling is that maybe there are some parties you can go to or groups you can join where like minded individuals get together. Then a meeting could happen more naturally and have a much better outcome. I know you've been looking for a while now, good luck to you. To answer your question directly, the woman would stick around after your explanation if she was interested so I don't think it's your wedding ring that's the problem. You need to increase your averages and get in the right pool. ;)

Always remain honest as any other policy will only lead to major drama and problems.

I would advise you seek out bisexual woman as you may stand a better chance in finding one that is ok with the idea of a man being involved in the relationship. However, you also must realize that not only must they not mind you are married to a man but also be interested in participating in a relationship involving that man in a three way relationship. Thus they are not the exclusive partner and desire of the other participants in the relationship which may be a deal breaker for a majority of the women.

Open marriages can work but most often end in heartbreak one way or the other.

no cause if someone is looking for a poly relaitionship and someone else isnt then it isnt going to work, u need to find some place where that is what people are looking for, if i got to know someone and liked her then she sprung it on me that her husband would like to join the relationship i would be pissed beyond belief!! gay women are not interested in any for of relaitionship with men,we like women. a bi-girls may be a better choice.

And for the guy at the bottom who is questioning everyone else answers, I have been in the position more than once where I have met up with a nice woman and she's wanted me to go sleep with her and her boyfriend, i am a lesbian and lesbians have no interest in men at all, the more people i educate regarding this the less lesbians have to waste time on dates with straight women looking to spice up thier relationship!

That's a good one, blame it all on the women. There are ways to be very clear in your disinterest, and if you have to get a little rude, then you should. The key here is that you said, I tell them I'm married, they still pursue me, it really doesn't bother me." You aren't sending the right signals....it should bother you! Women and men make stupid mistakes, and for the life of me I don't know why women go after married men, but I can just hear you now, "honey, I just got worn down over time, I finally caved to the temptation, but you can't blame me, I told them I was married, and they still came after me." PULEASE.....BARF.

It seems to me that people are assuming that you're talking exclusively to lesbians and not bi-sexual women, not that I know why they'd assume this.

Leave the rings on. Don't hide who you are, even if it means women turn you down a lot. the RIGHT woman won't turn you down, she'll be intrigued.

Also, don't let someone else's insecurities tell you that your open marriage won't work... that's not up to anyone but you and your spouse(s)

No, honesty is always the best policy, you may just need to look for other like minded women i.e. swingers.

I wouldn't care less... if you were hot, I'd just continue flirting :)